Dating tips for dummies

It seems like when you are attracted to someone, it's hard to disguise it. Even when you want to play hard to get...we can't ignore the fact that this person makes us feel all mushy inside. I'm sure we all have been there...moving too fast, giving up the goods on the first night, and a lot more im sure you already have in mind. When I really like someone, I can like them a little too much. doing this could trigger some thoughts mentally that cant be easily controlled. This could cause a lot of heartache and pain emotionally if not handled with care (which trust me, I can relate to). These tips will help you handle the fragilities of your heart like grandma's favorite china!

Tip #1 Always put YOU first...

The first step of dating someone and being in full control of your decisions and emotions is always thinking of you first. You have to have yourself together and stable, so that you don't feel like you aren't bringing enough to the table or have no value as a person. Being healthy within is the first step in having a partnership and controlling the level of attraction amongst your significant other. You will notice your partner appreciating you more for taking care of yourself, as you will need them less and only want them more. You will also create a barrier for your significant other that says that you are not concerned with BS but business and that you take everything seriously and stay on your Ps & Qs. This will also weed out anyone that is not serious and is not stable. Follow this tip and you both will have a chance to focus on each other because you have already handled the most important part...YOU.

Tip #2 Don't have sex regularly until its OFFICIAL

Listen, I am not the traditional wait until I'm married type of woman. I literally love to have sex. So, this is by far the hardest part for me. Especially if I am physically attracted to my mate...sometimes it's hard for me to control myself. Whew! But it's always 10,000 times better when we both miss it and this shows a high level of control when it comes to your attraction to your partner. I have to be honest and say that they will hate you for making them wait, but they will be alright and if they really want you, they will be like a ticking time bomb when they finally get a hold of you. This will make you feel so good as a person and keep you two from giving your all and becoming bored of eachother. You will always help mold the other person into controlling their attraction to you. They will adapt to your routine and try ways to make each time more special. These moments of lust and passion will soon become memories and goals, which will cause you two to implement a plan for future endeavors automatically putting you in full control of your attraction.

Tip #3 Do not share the same circle of FRIENDS

Um, yea....just avoid that. Unless you want to know about everyone before you or embarrass yourself before you get the ball going (well maybe it would be better than waiting until yall are full fledge in a relationship). You dont want to be under pressure and at risk to exposing your personal business to the wrong individuals. Yea, just don't. In some circumstances, you cant help it...like if it was a high school sweetheart or a jenny from the block. But if you could, just keep your own friends and vice versa. Eventually, as the relationship grows, everyone will come together and you all will become friends.

Tip #4 COMMUNICATE....period.

Yo! I really cant stress this enough. It's always been important to me to be able to communicate with the next person. What better way to get to know someone? And, the best thing about communication is that it involves a lot of listening as well. There is so much that can be discovered and expressed through communication. You will be able lay down a solid fcoundation about your values, goals and beliefs. You will be able to relate and compare your experiences to your significant other's feelings and experiences and get to know eachother effortlessly. You will be able to map out a way to protect eachother feelings, especially yours. Communication keeps you on the same page, so no one gets hurt. (Be sure to pay attention to trigger words and signs that may not sit well with you or may not be what you are looking for in a person)

I must admit. I absolutely hate giving out relationship advice. I am not cupid... I don't hook ups and I am not an attorney... I don't represent breakups! So, we will just call this words of wisdom from a friend. Keep in mind. This article is not for you to please your partner. This is for you to protect your feelings and develop and idea of what you want out of your partnership. Use these tips to keep you moving a steady pace with your partner and keep control of your attraction to others while dating.