Chamber of Hearts

People pleasing was an old hobby that opened the door to self neglect. Offering to pour more in the cups of others and leaving myself with droplets was the norm. It never failed to leave me feeling torn. Empty. I thought denying my own basic needs was showing that I cared deeply.

I shared every part of me without ever thinking twice. I was so nice. So available. Too nice. Too available to those who didn’t deserve it. Foolish is what I was. Learn from my mistakes…

There was a time when I thought love was something I had to earn. If I would’ve done this or said that instead, then maybe I could’ve received the love I desperately wanted in return.

It took years of trial and error to learn that there’s no presence of love without reciprocation and work. Love is half feeling, and the other part is an action. Pay very close attention to the actions of the people who claim to love you. Words are cheap but actions are where their true emotions reveal themselves. This analysis is imperative to discovering whether it’s love, infatuation, or manipulation.

When action and the feelings of love come together, it’s magical. Vulnerability with the right person is one of life’s most beautiful connections. Even if your partner is mad at you, they will still respect and support you in times of need.

The best way to tell if someone loves you is being honest with yourself about how you feel when they are around. True love should sound like talking with a best friend.

Don’t settle for anything less.

I promise that it’ll save you a lot of unnecessary stress that comes with being with the wrong one.

It’s the little things that make relationships last a lifetime, so have fun with your partner at the grocery store. If you can’t do simple things together and enjoy it, then you’re probably not a good fit.

Don’t settle for anything less.

Listening will save you a lot of unnecessary stress that comes with being with the wrong one.

Just to be clear, I was not a saint in every relationship. I’m just unraveling the secrets of how to unlock the love you’ve always craved.

Some may be wondering why I care. Because, I love seeing people in love and healthy friendships. It creates a happier society to live in.

The trick to finding the one is to stop looking and become the person that you desire to attract. Whether it’s a platonic or romantic relationship, we attract our reflections and those vibrating on our same frequency.

I’m not saying that if you had a crazy ex then that makes you crazy too. But, I am saying that if you focused more on self-love and care, then you’re more likely to find the person that’s right for you.

Once you’ve taken good care of yourself, reflected on how you can improve, and put your thoughts into action, then you can handle the challenges of creating a positive environment for a loving relationship to grow, if that’s what you even want. I know people that are satisfied with being single for a variety of reasons. That’s ok too. If it increases your quality of life, then do it.

Lastly, love is not blind! That’s one of the biggest lies about love. If you notice red flags, run as far away as you can. Trying to fix a person is a losing game. Don’t try to play it. However, don’t be too critical. I heard someone or maybe it was in a movie that I can’t remember right now, say, “Love is something that must be done with eyes wide open in the beginning and slightly shut towards the middle, because no one is perfect.”

The secret to love is to love how you want to be loved, never love anyone more than you love yourself, and it will find you.