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3 Signs You’ve Met A Relationship Junkie.

People from too many relationships are not satisfied.

By writemindmattersPublished 11 months ago 4 min read
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3 Signs You’ve Met A Relationship Junkie.
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Most of us know someone who has gone through way too many partners. We know that person has issues, but we politely smile and congratulate them or openly point out their issues, depending on our relationship with ourselves and that person.

“…having more sexual or relationship partners predicts poorer outcomes in later relationships, including sexual infidelity and lower marital satisfaction.” — Kayla Knopp & colleagues.

Relationship junkies have to be in relationships to feel good about themselves. Relationship junkie behaviour is a mixture of addiction, low self-esteem, novelty-seeking, and opportunity. More discerning, confident, and intelligent people are generally capable of making better relationship choices.

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A clear sign that you’re with a relationship junkie is that they have a history of going from one relationship to the next with little, if any, in-between time being single.

However, some relationship junkies hide their prior relationships or leave it till much later, when they accuse you of everything the hundred partners before you did before they let it all out.

“No extreme pattern of reward-seeking, whether it is for food, sex, romantic love, or drugs, is likely to promote a person’s chances of flourishing in the modern world.” — Dr Brian D Earp & colleagues.

I went out with my first relationship junkie in my late 30s, I was fully aware at that age to avoid people who go from relationship to relationship, but this guy was new to town, so I had no idea till it was too late.

Take your time with ‘new to town’; the reason they left their last town might not be so clear, at first. Every relationship junkie has their own pattern, but there are three tell-tale signs that every junkie can’t hide:

1. They fall in love way before you do.

Get out! Yes, you’re wonderful and so amazing that it’s no surprise somebody fell in love with you that quickly, but anyone who falls in love too quickly is going to be a problem. Relationship junkies don’t fall in love as fast as they think they do, they’ve done it so often that their hormones are wired to believe they’re in love, and they’re also accustomed to grooming tactics.

Even if you're not feeling the relationship as much as the junkie is, you can get the same euphoric high from their "undying" love for you! This natural high sets off a dependency on the person (particularly, their attention) that can easily be misinterpreted for love.

2. Too many social media pages or “she/he’s my world” photos.

We can't help but laugh at multiple “he/she’s my everything” hashtag blessed post from the same person about a new person every few months. The slightly more aware relationship junkie has a new social media page for every relationship. Then there are the classic junkies that have identical relationship problems with different people, but never seem to work out that they are their own problems.

Interestingly, no social media can also be a little suspicious, depending on who they are in terms of personal preferences, it's important to be aware that some relationship junkies have so much to hide, they can't have social media.

3. Friends and family make junkies obvious.

You can work this out two ways, either family members are non-existent or you can pick up the sketchy vibes. It’s a little bit awkward when a family member says, “Oh, what happened to …”, or, “I’m sorry, which one are you again? There have been so many.”

Family members can make it very obvious, tired of the process, they may be your first warning flag, either keen to make it clear you're not their first rodeo, or so uncomfortable that they're very clearly hiding something.

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If you’re lucky, you might strike an honest and straightforward friend or family member who stuck around despite the drama. This person will directly tell you, if not subtly, to get out while you still can. Bless those people, they're the rarest of angels.

Save yourself a lot of drama, headaches, and heartache and find someone who is comfortable and independent whether they are with someone or on their own.

While there is no magic number for how many people you should have a relationship with throughout your lifetime, learning to enjoy yourself without being in a relationship teaches you to appreciate yourself and all your relationships better. Research has shown that strong bonds and healthy relationships with the people in our lives helps us live longer and more fulfilling lives.

Thanks for reading.❤

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writemindmatters

Writing about all matters of the mind, narcissism, personality disorders, parenting, writing, naturopathy, nutrition, and hopefully chapters from fantasy books I'll one day write.

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