It is surprising how much confusion using vague language about what we want and about our current relationship brings to others. It's more surprising to me that those who want to change up their relationship form do not seek out the meaningful distinctions that would describe the relationships they are desiring sooner. To allow you to better communicate yourself and what you're seeking, please familiarize yourself with the distinctions used in monogamous and non-monogamous if you are seeking to engage in them.
Choosing terms that convey the characteristics of the exact relationship form you are talking about help people understand you and you understand them. I communicate with people about the relationships I'm interested in using the terms poly M/s or D/s relationship. If you only use one term, or express that one term as the right way to be poly, communication cannot be had and people get upset.
Relationship forms and expressions are not stagnate cultural experiences. They live and breathe with us and people across the globe bring in many different perspectives and expectations. No one should expect to approach another person and have them agree with everything they say and think. There is not one right way to have a consenting relationship, so do not seek to take away another's freedom of choice and expression. I'd like to share with you four relational standards to keep in mind as you describe any relationships with others.
1. Be sure that all people in a relationship being discussed are consenting and legally fit to give that consent.
2. Do not seek to disempower, devalue, or remove another's relational freedom because what they describe is not right for you.
3. Seek to be descriptive and not prescriptive with how you believe your relationships should function or develop.
4. Your chosen relationship(s) should not be harmful to anyone.
This advice allows each person to explore expectations, wants, needs, and give consent. Giving consent in social philosophy asserts that individuals primarily make decisions as free agents entering into consensual relationships with other free agents. This becomes the basis for communicating consent. Consent comes in different flavors.
Safe, sane and consensual (SSC)
SSC stands for Safe, Sane, Consensual. It is far and away the most recognizable and popular model of consent in BDSM circles, though not without criticism.
Risk-aware consensual kink
RACK stands for Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. It is the second most popular consent model. It was created to overcome perceived shortcomings of SSC.
Personal Responsibility In Consensual Kink
PRICK stands for Personal Responsibility In Consensual Kink. It is an alternative to RACK that emphasizes personal responsibility for choices and consequences.
As you learn the words and descriptions of what you want and what you need be ready to explore. Be open to listening and discovering that some people will use different words to describe the same experience. I hope you have enjoyed this post.
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