The sound of your name used to send shock waves throughout my body, informing me of your invading presence and the paradise that followed. Which was why I wasn't surprised at the inner turmoil coiling about inside me as I turned to catch your gaze from across the room. The gallery was crowded tonight, full of potential clients and investors, friends and family as well. And yet all that seemed to capture my attention was the wildfire in your chestnut eyes, tempting me to get lost in them once again.

This may be a series on my page about just the bullshit these guys will say and how they will try to fool you. I have done three posts about fake daddies already but they keep coming up with new things to try to fool women.

Vanilla and BDSM are similar in some ways when it comes to what is too controlling. The main difference is rules and boundaries. In a vanilla relationship, you have boundaries and maybe rules to keep the relationship on the right track. The vanilla boundaries and rules may also be there to make sure there are no hurt feelings and everyone involved is on the same page. These rules and boundaries can be like monogamy: no being alone with certain genders (or people), and texting or calling when you arrive safe somewhere. In BDSM, some of the rules and boundaries can be similar to vanilla ones, but they go deeper than that. Part of the reason that the boundaries and rules go deeper in BDSM is because it's a power exchange lifestyle and the stuff we do is a little different. People have soft and hard limits and that's part of our boundaries and rules.

Bondage and kink as we know it has been around for over 50 years but it has only been or gotten popular just a few years ago. I believe the popularity of it all began with 50 Shades of Grey. We have talked before why 50 Shades of Grey was 50 shades of crap. People just couldn't get enough of kink, hopefully they learned the right way to do kinky stuff though. If it turns you on don't listen to the vanillas (the non kinky people), they may bad mouth what you like. Yes Christian Grey was a little abusive but there are doms out there that are 100 times better and they are true doms. Real doms will cringe or laugh when you mention 50 Shades. I think porn and Tumblr also helped. There have been other movies or books that mention or portray kink. Sometimes Criminal Minds does episodes based on kink or swinging. I know I got into it because of both 50 Shades and Tumblr.

I was at work one day and a security guard brought me a note. He said it was from the wife of this guy that worked in the front office. She was on the security detail as well. I knew the guy in the front office, but I didn’t know his wife. I had seen her and told him that she was beautiful, and I’m sure he’s a happy man. He kind of looked at me and nodded as if to say, thank you, without saying thank you. It was sort of a Twilight Zone type look. The note said that she was collecting donations for some cause and she wanted to make a pitch at me. She asked could she have my phone number. I sent my phone number and later that day she called me. It turns out that she didn’t have anything to pitch at me other than herself. She said she thought I was attractive and she wanted to get to know me. We were on the first shift and her husband was on the second shift working in inventory control.

Chances are if you have a pulse, you’re over the age of 18, with a cell phone, you’ve definitely watched porn before, and you probably watched it on Porn Hub. If you are the type of person who is not-ashamed-and-hiding-it, you probably can name off current day porn stars in scenes, like most can with their favorite mainstream actors and actresses in a TV sitcom. With that said I am going to take a wild guess and say you most likely have wondered what it might be like to date your favorite porn star. You might be surprised, to learn just how many people do. That’s why I’m here, to talk with you about what it is like to actually date one of us, a real-life porn star. Yes, me, yes I was in fact a very busy, pretty sought after porn star at one time in my life. In fact I won the first ever “Dirtiest Girl In Porn Award” at the first ever F.A.M.E Awards at one of the first Exotica Conventions in 2006. Boy, was I ever so proud of that award.

Gia felt like her brain was going to explode. Whether it was a mix of today's stresses of life or just... hearing Lai and Sebastian go at it with each other over the phone, her temples had begun to throb. It was the tale of her best friend's current "situation-ship." Every good thing that was going on, Gia would hear about it. Every bad... Gia would hear about it. Wishing that she was deaf, she listened and advised, yet Lai would take her advice of leaving him alone. On this day, she had decided to take Lai out to eat, and while they were "catching up," Sebastian called and the fireworks had begun.

I spent the night at his place. It was one night and a short morning. He kissed me goodbye on my cheek. I stood there awkwardly frozen, looking deeply into his hazel blue eyes, before saying a quick, "OK then, gotta go." Jumping into the driver's seat of my truck, I left quickly and did not look back.

If you're thinking about sending any nude videos or photos, there are a few things you need to consider. If you decide that you want to send the intimate media but are still concerned, you may want to try to reduce the risks. There is no foolproof way to eliminate the risks of sending intimate photos or videos. As with all kinds of sexual activity, there is always going to be a degree of risk. You need to decide how much risk you're comfortable with and ideally, decide this before the situation arises. If you do choose to send nudes, there are a few ways you can try to reduce any negative outcomes aside from ensuring all participants are of legal age.

"Thanks for picking me up," I said.

Communication is important in most areas of our life. Can you name one where good communication can't make an incredible difference? When we are able to communicate clearly, things tend to go a lot smoother. We are able to feel understood, have an easier time getting our needs met, and able to form better connections with those around us.

I have been fortunate enough to have had three wonderful nesting partners in my adult life. (Sequentially, that is. Having three lovers at the same time is the subject for a future article.)