"Thanks for picking me up," I said.
Communication is important in most areas of our life. Can you name one where good communication can't make an incredible difference? When we are able to communicate clearly, things tend to go a lot smoother. We are able to feel understood, have an easier time getting our needs met, and able to form better connections with those around us.
I have been fortunate enough to have had three wonderful nesting partners in my adult life. (Sequentially, that is. Having three lovers at the same time is the subject for a future article.)
I wake up before you, after a night of excitement still remembering our every movement down to the most minute detail. Seeing you still asleep, I kiss your forehead hoping to wake you up. Getting no response, I get out of bed, lifting the sheets. Catching a glimpse of you naked, thinking of how tight your dick was in my pussy just some hours before... Smiling to myself, I go down the stairs to the kitchen naked.
Love at first sight seems so cliche, but in her mind, in her heart it felt right. Sharon often fell for men quickly, mistaking lust for love, never realizing she was confused. See, Sharon was so used to men feeding her lines, making her feel like she was the only one. At that moment, she believed every line that a man—that present man—said to her. Let's fast forward a bit, and take you into Sharon's current situation. It has been a wild ride. Let's take you into her world.
I can still see you. Standing at the rail. It requires no effort at all.
Is porn in a relationship healthy? I am married to a man whose whole life revolved around porn before we got married, and now it's percolated into our lives now. Don't get me wrong. I enjoy the occasional porno and I even have a favorite porn star, but the keyword is occasional. My husband has porn in his computer and porn on his phone and porn on my tablet and on his tablet. My whole house is filled with porn.
I've been out of the Dom/Sub game for about two years now. However, earlier this year, upon the start of a new job, I found him. A Dom. And he's a new breed from anything I've had before. It didn't start off as a flat out arrangement—we'd just started messaging back and forth, learning about the other, their past, their humor. Per usual, alcohol can play a big factor in (usually) regrettable decisions and actions—but both of us would say that this led to a great arrangement between us, and we couldn't be happier.
Where do I start... The fact that I took his keys by accident or the fact that I woke up to find him not in my bed, but my flatmate’s bed?
The sign had stopped you. Planted your feet transfixed. Cocked your head to one side. Curious. I pulled up behind you. Just short of collision.
Choice is a crucial part of consent. That seems fairly straightforward and a total no brainer. When we talk about consent, pretty much everyone would agree that consent should be freely given. It's easy to talk about it when we look at the black and white definition. The trouble is that the world is never black and white. Many people can define the basics of what consent is; however, those same people struggle to articulate how it should be applied when given real-world situations. It's not always clear cut and there's a lot of debate. So how do we know if consent is actually freely given?
When consent is a newer concept or conversation for you, it may feel awkward to start doing it. We don't have a lot of good examples modeled to us of suave and sexy consent conversations. There is usually a whole lot of the opposite. Movies and TV often sell the idea of just taking action is sexier and more daring. This is a horrible and potentially dangerous idea. It is ideas like that which have led us to our current state of affairs where at least 1 in 4 women in Canada experience a sexual assault in their life. It is ideas like that which have created the need for social movements like the #MeToo Movement. Consent is incredibly important and it doesn't have to feel awkward.