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Can you help bring out my inner sadist?
All too often in helping relationships, what needs to be said is what one person does not want to say, and the other does not want to hear. Also, people’s explicit notions only convey a part of their mental processes. What goes without saying generally goes unsaid. This is why researchers and MCs do not content themselves with asking various people about their conceptions of life and living but also observe how the consequences of a group member or action trigger particular behaviors. Advising this comes down to the experience of identifying the expressive cues presented and those that are never expressed and held back. What you read here is my best approximation of the energy, feel, and questions that are asked and unsaid. This question of how to be a better sexual or sensual sadist is common for those engaged in BDSM and those who dabble in some of it’s sensual arts. There is no one correct way to embody or behave. What follows is how the narrative and question resonated with me. Would you have answered it differently?
An Answer to when is it time to end training?
The question of when to stop training is a search to clarify priorities and values of what we have, what we are doing, and where we might go from here. That can become confusing as we become aware of new possibilities and new goals that can make us refocus our efforts in new ways or do something different. None of us likes confusion because it erodes our sense of competence and confidence. Sometimes it can be difficult to remove ourselves from our feelings far enough to verbalize them. If we even knew we were confused, we wouldn't be as confused as we are. Yet, confusion is as usual as certainty. Often the questions we are asked are not ultimately the ones that a person is seeking answers for. As you read this over and please think about what you might say. Chances are good you will encounter someone like this.
An answer to observing a scene gone wrong
This post was inspired by an email I received. It brings together many issues that we have to engage with when inviting others to join us to observe as we engage with our specific kink dynamics. Do you think the observer is part of scene they are observing? This email encapsulates many of the general assumptions people can come to the kink community after only learning about what it means to be dominant or submissive through porn and fantasy. This email is a learning experience about communication and how to handle unpleasant feelings while attending an event or online. Not every piece of advice that any of us will give is going to be positive. People need to know they are wrong and need to see consequences when they do not change their behavior. As you read this over and please think about what you might say. Chances are good you will encounter someone like this.
In Response: What's kinda like playing with yourself but isn't?
Every day I get questions from people that attended one of my trainings, read my blog, or my books. Once I get the same question again and again for a while, I recognize that it would be worthwhile to share this q and a with others. So this question about restrictions on stimulation of oneself is one that regularly pops up. It is also a question that is asked by everyone and not just one gender. I welcome your thoughts and impressions on how you might answer this yourself. Whether you agree or disagree with my reply you will get to learn what iktsuarpok means.
How to support content creators and influence the local and national community
By definition, all of us on social media are content creators. We are sharing our stories, opinions, memes, poking fun at stereotypes, and now and again sharing effective content that drives people of similar interest back to our business. What we content creators do for business is more than work for money. We support worthy causes, network, and recognize others for their efforts. Since much of our content spans across multiple channels, it can be tricky to know how to support us. Here is a quick and naughty guide on how you can help the content producers and communities/tribes, making a difference in your life as they put out the content and events that people love.
NOLA Kink Community Update & The 2020 Agent of Influence Awards
2020 has been like a story right out of the B movie reels and pulp fiction noir. It is my sincere hope that with your assistance, we can end this on one high note after another, but we are going to need your help to do it. This year I will be working with N.O.B.L.E. as a neutral party to award members of our community The Agent of Influence Award. This award is to give recognition to the actions and strivings of people and organizations that made a positive impact on the local and nation kink community and furthering the culture of our community. In bestowing this award to key members of our community, I'd like to announce that this effort will also establish the Noble Petition Fund. The Noble Petition Fund will allow members of good standing to petition the leadership to get assistance with fees associated with attending virtual or in-person events. This award process will encourage more people to take part in the ongoing events and thereby opening up minds, hearts, and experiences that allow them to feel part of the community. There will be more on how you can help and shortly. Let us begin by introducing this award next.
Reputation - A new BDSM game to connect and converse with Kinksters
Every now and then I come across something that answers the questions of people that they never knew they had. This week I came across a game called Reputation. It’s BDSM board game with a bit of role-playing to keep the game interesting. The game is described chance game where a dice role can lead you to being an outstanding member of the community, or leave you to being a cautionary tale whispered about at the next dungeon gathering. The humor is wonderful as it is spot on for some people and whimsically silly for others because this game sets us up to interact and share knowledge and fantasy aspects about the lifestyle to progress through the game. It is great to utilize as an activity for friendly new people just coming into the scene.
What’s a Hypnotic trigger and how do I work with them?
I received this email and thought this would be a good topic to share with my group and to explore how others will answer this question. I received the email below on triggers and what follows is my answer. I look forward to hearing how my fellow Hypnotist’s and MC’s would respond as well.