It is surprising how much confusion using vague language about what we want and about our current relationship brings to others. It's more surprising to me that those who want to change up their relationship form do not seek out the meaningful distinctions that would describe the relationships they are desiring sooner. To allow you to better communicate yourself and what you're seeking, please familiarize yourself with the distinctions used in monogamous and non-monogamous if you are seeking to engage in them.
Today was the last session of an applicant who wanted to change her life. She came to me wanting to have the choice and feel good about how she lived her life. When I asked her what she wanted a year ago she told me that she was drawn to me by something I had said. She wanted to live by a code, find the discipline to create a life that made her feel proud, and get out of the funk that had stayed with her for years. She is one of the few people who asked to purchase a bundle of coaching sessions up front. She told me she was serious and I have seen few people dive into new knowledge, exercises, and expressions of identity like her. Designing one's life and inventing oneself is what I call Guru Services and the product is you! What happened on her last session today made me proud of the work I do and the people I touch.
There is much written about the gift of submission, and not enough written about being a Dom who is capable of putting oneself out there. Being a Dom means sharing who you are. The best and worst of you are
your gifts that you share. These gifts are how the world knows you. You give acceptance for who others are and could be. You give purpose, inspire passion, and invite others to join you with a vision of the future. You offer a safe, forgiving space that appreciates those you surround yourself with. You hold space while others share their doubts, fear, and worry so they can be encouraged to move past them. You offer peace, love, guidance, and discipline as each action helps to order the chaos surrounding us. You offer your strength, faith, trust, and courage when others fail. A Dom becomes a living expression of feedback, sanctuary, and praise. It can be the embodiment of feeling home, accepted, and needed. You become a symbol that connects the whole expression of an individual with opportunities and possibilities that come from being together.
There are multiple styles of hypnosis and systems designed to encourage subconscious responses from a subject. When we have a subject eager to experience hypnosis and discover if erotic hypnosis lives up to all the hype; we have a challenge. While we all may use a different style of hypnosis, many of us follow a similar framework to arrive at a shared agenda for a session and during the session itself. A formal process I use for public and private play generally looks like this.
Take some time to get to know the subject a little. Getting rapport and consent assists you in developing the most effective language with your subject. It’s great when you can find out about the subject’s attitudes, emotions, interests, and anything which may help you to decide on the choice of words, scenes, and any themes that they don’t like before using them. Some hypnotists will have the subject describe the most comforting and happiest places they have been or wish to be. It’s often an easy trance session if the subject would enjoy revivifying or recreating those moments with you. When doing a kinky hypnotic session, a negotiation BDSM checklist may be used as part of this pretalk. A checklist like this is often used if playing in a public dungeon and it helps to ensure there is no shame, limits, and real interests. You can find an updated form for this purpose here.
This is a question that comes up from time to time because it is simply assumed we all relax with the same ease. The same can be said for people's belief that everyone has the same skill, ability, and potential for how they concentrate. When I get a question like this I can see that the desire and follow through is there. This question gets at the knowledge, skills, and ability to get a better outcome from what they are experiencing. This can be an opportunity to bring together different methods of trance in order to adjust potential energy in the body and mind to relax even more with hypnosis. If you've got my new book, Instruction of The Hypno Dom: A Master/slave Lifestyle Development Training on Erotic and Authoritarian Hypnosis on amazon you might see how this question could be combined session with Relational Meditation and hypnosis working well together. After reading this question let know if you would answer differently, and why.