This is the story of my first ever date. A pivotal moment for anyone, but especially for a young woman who, as a junior in college, was a late bloomer by anyone's standards. Not to mention I'd spent many, many years wondering what my first date would be like, what kind of guy I'd go out with, and, as the years wore on, the increasing panic-ridden thought that I may never even have a first date at all.
Beyond These Walls
The woman standing in front of me is my neighbor but she doesn’t know it. She lives in the unit on the other side of my flat’s northwestern corner wall. And as much as I'd like it, we may not actually share a wall at all, just the empty space in between plywood sheets where mice and rat droppings—and hopefully no snakes—might be found.
Misadventures in Online Dating
I’ve dated, both online and off, intermittently over the years. At times, raising my children, growing my business(es), or simple dating burnout, made me take a break. But I’ve always jumped back in at some point.
You Can't Make This Stuff Up: Shenanigans & What Nots
Picture It: Omaha, Nebraska 199-2000ish Disclaimer : I playfully refer to my time in Omaha as a “bid”, but truth be told, my friends & family in Omaha ignited my freedom; and for them and those experiences, I am eternally grateful.
She's Chasing Something She Already Had
It happened. I was lied to again by the person I love and deeply care for. Many have asked me, is it, love? I believe it is, and yes, there is a toxic level to it. But through all the pain that she has caused me, I want to take hers away.
Being myself is something that was always taught to me, even from a young age. But, what happens when the same people who encourage you to be independent and to be yourself suddenly become the very people who make it hard to truly be authentic to yourself? There have been a lot of changes in my life in the past two years and all because I decided to be myself and not live for other people’s happiness.
I’ve always wanted to be a mom. Coming home to an empty house gets old after a while. Besides, I always felt I had far too much love bottled up inside of me. Pouring love into people time and time again who ultimately proved themselves unworthy, only left me feeling worse than before. It made me realize that loneliness is not the worst thing in the world.
4 Life Lessons on Finding Love I wish I could Tell My 26 year old self
I remember her very well. She was sitting by the window, wearing her green dress and waiting for her best friend to click a photo for the matrimony site. Her eyes were filled with hope, excitement and the dreaminess of getting to meet her future husband soon. Nothing would complete her life like adding a “Mrs” prefix to her name.
How Do You Know If Your Boo is Really into You?
If you have a crush and wonder if the person that you are interested in feels the same way, your best line of defense is to pay attention. Sometimes, the idea of approaching a person that you are crushing on can be nerve-wracking. What if he or she doesn’t feel the same way? What if you are misreading the signs? How do you know when it is the right moment? Well, if your secret boo is doing any of these things, then it might be time to talk to him or her.
"O(LD)h Boy!... Men, Men, Men!"... Is Today's Topic.
In the years that I've dated, I can't say I've dated a specific type of man, but have always been drawn to older men. I have heard it all before, people's theories as to why that is; daddy issues, mentality of older men being more mature, different life experiences, wanting to learn something new from them... blah blah blah! What I have to say to that, is some of these are true but I view this as an opportunity for growth, exploring different options, and expanding my knowledge. Men in general are smart and interesting creatures, put on this earth for a multitude of reasons, but hurting women should not be one of them. This article is being written based on my own experiences with both men my age and older men, and is not based on facts or scientific proof.
Inside My Head
Most people are born with a voice inside of their heads that tells them between right and wrong. Some people end up with multiple, and an even smaller amount ends up with whole personalities. I’m one of those people. I have an entire system of others working inside my head. Some to protect, others to make life more exciting. One thing though, I have no control. It’s very hard to keep a grasp on being in the front seat, as I like to put it. Especially when I’m about to get thrown through a whirlwind of emotions.
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Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too
There is a culture of shame around experiencing and reporting abuse, particularly when it relates to intimate partner relationships. According to the CDC, nearly half of all women and men report being the victims of psychological abuse and intimidation, and I suspect those numbers are underreported. Society still tries to justify the victim's role in the abuse, which discourages speaking out.