Why, oh why, is there such a lack of communication among families these days! Whatever happened to the notion of working things out through the use of communication? These are just two of the many questions I ask myself whenever I hear of divorce between couples whom I know, don’t know, or even celebrity couples. I don’t want to stereotype celebrities because, like us, they’re individuals with huge incomes earned from their crafts of either singing, acting, writing, dancing, etc. in front of millions of viewers. However, I have noticed that an awful lot of divorces are among celebrities, though I won’t name any names. Still, how can a woman decide, “This just isn’t working out. I want a divorce,” so quickly after giving birth to a second child that you both supposedly prayed for? If it’s not a case of physical abuse or verbal abuse, it should be worth considering what drew you to your significant other or spouse in the first place. What was it about him that made you give him that second look? What was it about her that made you have to have her phone number at first sight? What gave you the nerve to approach her to introduce yourself as possibly the man of her dreams? I’ve often heard people say that when it comes to making big decisions a person must look deep within himself or herself before making any life changing decisions. The first time that I heard that expression I thought, “as if our eyes could turn around and look inside our bodies." That would truly be a sight to see; all of the major organs operating to keep us functioning as human beings. Still, I understood what that concept meant due to circumstances in which it was used.
The rate of teenage pregnancy was consistently rising during my years in high school and it was frightening to me. As I entered junior high and high school, I was an active introvert to keep boys from showing too much interest in me. I had witnessed a few classmates coming to school with symptoms that I didn’t realize were those of pregnancy because I was in no way interested in having sex. Besides attending junior high and high school with pregnant classmates, my mom always made us watch educational programs on PBS which would document the issues faced by teenage girls, teenage boys, and teenagers, as a whole.
As much as we would like to believe it, friendship doesn’t always last a lifetime. There are times when we lose someone that we feel a connection to through ways other than death. Losing a family member or friend through death is a tragedy that one must accept as a part of life since it’s so final. Sadly, death is a part of life that will eventually affect everyone. Once it happens, there is no chance of going back to resolve any issues with the one whose life is lost. Parents, as well as elders of the family, often tell their youths that true friendship lasts a lifetime if it can stand the tests of time.
It’s not easy to face the many different challenges life has in store for us. As children, the term challenge is almost a foreign term that’s hard to understand. Each day individuals wake up to a fresh new day to do and be better than the day before. Those individuals who are goal-oriented view each new day as a fresh start, a time to improve on the previous day’s attempt to get closer to reaching goals. Depending on what that goal is, and the complexity of reaching it, it can be quite challenging when unexpected issues arise, such as time and money. This is when determination must take center stage on getting to where one wants to be.
Sometimes it’s necessary to find ways of relaxing when feeling the ordinary stresses that life brings upon us. Although a new year has only just begun, there are those moments when I must turn to the only thing that helps me to relax, almost instantly… music. Those moments occur most often when there’s no visible progress of something that I’ve been attempting to do for a while. Instead of crying and pulling my hair out, I turn to music. Something about the sound and beat of music that just resonate through me, relaxing my nerves and allowing me to release unwanted tension and stress.
Approaching the end of the year involves celebrating two major holidays that involve a lot of eating; Thanksgiving Day and Christmas Day. I have always considered Thanksgiving the holiday that focuses more on families coming together to celebrate through feasting. Throughout many centuries, it has become the norm for families to celebrate Thanksgiving Day by feasting on a baked or roasted turkey, served with dressing and all the fixings. No one really knows when or how turkey became the traditional meat for Thanksgiving holiday. But there is speculation that years ago many believed that serving the biggest bird, turkey, meant that that person was wealthy. I find it interesting to have learned that turkeys are called “turkey” because they are supplied to England from America, through a country called Turkey.