*** Warning this article deals talks about sexual assault, trauma, and rape. It also talks about my experience and the experience of those of who I have talked to, it in no way is meant to represent everyone.
There are defining moments in our lives that forever create a definitive split in our personal timelines. Once these moments occur, there will always be a "before" and an "after," a harsh contrast that will always be a reference point for future reflection.
I have been in the workplace for over forty years, I have been sexually harassed and discriminated against more times than I care to remember. Who hasn’t right? The only thing new here is that my perpetrators were other females. I know right. We don't typically hear this. In the workplace, it's usually accusations from a female against a male counterpart. I am here now to say that sexual harassment and discrimination in the workplace is a two-way street, equal oppportunity offence. Over the years I have felt harassed and discriminated against many times, and yes I was harassed because I was female. My harassment came from the hands of other women. I have been victim to bullying, conspiring, gossiping, isolation, control, betrayal, withheld opportunities, right down to termination.
Almost two years ago I was a Londoner hooked to social media, and very aware of what was going on in the world, particularly in the U.S and the U.K; I felt energised every time there was a win for humanity such as the #metoo movement, but unlike other Londoners, I did not go out much, instead, I invested my time leaving comments and writing blogs about some of the things I went throughout my life, those experiences I felt could help others; but all that stopped in the moment I moved back to my home country.
Netflix’s Sex Education is a must see of the year. There are many reasons why i adore this program, from normalising the discussion about sex, to making it okay to laugh about those awkward moments we all experience. It’s a program I wish had been around when I was a teenager, in lots of ways it made me realise I wasn't alone. Plenty of the story-lines touched me but this season it was Aimee's that i really resonated with.
My mom was always in a relationship. She used to say she was in love with the idea of being in love, but never found the perfect man. Lets face in, the perfect man does not exist. She left my father not long after I was born, and married my first Stepfather Kyle. He was the best and treated me like I was his own child. He didn't have kids of his own and wanted to be a father to me, my father didn't come around much. Kyle taught me how to ride a bicycle, and always told me, no matter how many times I fall down, always get back up. I took that to heart and have lived by it most of my life, my life has not been easy.