The Emergence of the "Burning Party" Revealed

Have you ever had a pity party or a friend that has? All the tears and isolation and all of the loathing and drama can be enough to avoid them in the first place. Having a burning party can be a replacement, or substitute for the other ones, and it has some pretty amazing benefits too that you cannot get from sitting on the pity pot.

The burning party is a gathering of your closest friends and family who have a desire to let go of a burden or lots of them. People that attend thjese gatherings are wanting to progress and move forward by bringing something tangible and/or symbolic of a burden that caused them pain or some kind of negative feeling or something that may have set them back emotionally, financially, physically, etc., you get the point.

Some examples of items one may choose to burn are below, but remember, you should choose items to burn that have significance to you:

-Collection letters, or any kind of notice from a creditor that feels you owe them money.

-Letters from the ex that broke your heart when he or she cheated on you.

-Your business card, paid for by the company or organization that terminated your employment right before Christmas.

-Greeting cards or "I'm sorry" cards after your husband hit you with his fist.

-Notes from your Spanish class you failed or something from the Algebra class that you failed numerous times and made you delay graduating.

And a burning party is supposed to be fun and allow you to find some closure. Invite some of your friends or members of your family that tend not to have pity parties more often than others. Also, avoid inviting negative or angrier than normal people because the burning party is something that should be positive. So, in a nutshell, invite those closest to you that will allow for a positive outcome. And of course, there may be tears, and that is ok! Feelings and emotions are what we are made of, so feel all of the feelings when you burn.

Use an old metal trash can, use your fireplace or a firepit, barbeque grill, etc. and light it up! Take turns and provide information with the people you have gathered. When you burn it, let it go. It has no value now, let it turn into ashes. And of course, you can choose to have libations or not, or make it a dinner and burn party, it can be whatever you want and it can be as fancy as you want it. It can be totally simple too. When I hosted my burn party, I invited my friends Shannon and Jeremiah. I informed them of what they should bring to burn and a rundown or summary of what to expect. I had a very nice candlelight dinner out on my deck. The weather was perfect; it was crisp and the smell of fresh lawn clippings filled our noses as the wind comfortably blew down the valley when my condo was nestled. For the burn, I used my fit pit and filled it with sticks and foliage I wanted to recycle. The glorious flame was heavy and strong and could take in our most hurtful memories we wanted to eliminate. After dinner and the burn, we talked about the experience, posted what we wanted to share on social media and we concluded with a promise and some much-needed affection. As we hugged one another, I felt a release and a sense of freedom; it was as if My Higher Power relieved me of a heavy burden. I could not longer feel it on my shoulders and it helped heal my heart. I was able to move forward without it. It was a miracle.

Burning parties are known for their therapuetic benefits. They are also know to lessen anxiety and support amends and closure too. So, light it up with the Ya-Ya girls, have some dinner and wine, dessert too, but remember what the main goal is: burn, burn, burn and let go and move forward. Forgive yourself and progress through the burn. Trust me, you'll be glad you did. Be careful and safe.