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"Mummy, Can I Play Out Please?". Content Warning.
I never go back to my childhood home, because the street fills my head with tormenting memories from my past. However, not everything was negative about my childhood. There are also happy memories mixed in with sadness.
By Carol Ann Townend3 years ago in Psyche
How to read people Instantly??
How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological Tips When we are meeting someone for the first time, we are bombarded with information. It can be hard to work out what kind of person they are. That’s why it’s important to understand HOW we communicate. According to experts, 55% of what we convey comes from body language, 38% from the tone of voice, and only 7% from what we actually say. This means that when we meet someone for the first time, we have to take into account these three factors - in addition to what a person’s appearance may suggest. So, if you want to gain insight into someone’s personality when you first meet them, pay attention to the following clues - starting from the head down! Number 1 - Eye Contact They often say that the eyes are the window to the soul. The key to knowing which kind of eye contact someone is giving you, is to consider the context. For example, if a person literally can’t take their eyes off you, it could mean there’s a romantic interest. On the other hand, when you look someone in the eye, and they can’t bring themselves to look back at you, it’s a sign that they’re either nervous, or they’ve got something to hide. That said, if you’re talking with someone whose stare is making you squirm - especially if they’re very still and not blinking - something is definitely up, and they may be lying to you. Number 2 - Eyebrows If you want to see how comfortable a person is, take a look at their eyebrows! There are three main emotions that make your eyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear. Try raising your eyebrows when you’re having a relaxed casual conversation with a friend. It’s hard to do, isn’t it? If someone talking to you raises their eyebrows, and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, it’s a sign that they’re feeling pretty uncomfortable. Number 4 - Smile When it comes to smiling, the mouth can lie, but the eyes can’t. Genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling the skin to create crow’s feet around them. People often smile to hide what they’re really thinking and feeling, so the next time you want to know if somebody’s smile is genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes. If they aren’t there, that smile is hiding something! Number 5 - What They Say If you’re meeting someone for the first time, and all they do is talk about their wonderful better half or praise their work colleagues, chances are, they’re a pretty decent person themselves. Studies show, that the more people rate others as being kind, polite, loving and well-mannered, the more likely they are to also possess these traits. However, the reverse is also true. Anyone backstabbing and describing others as manipulative and nasty, is more likely to have these traits themselves. It’s also possible that they have a history of depression or personality disorder. Number 6 - Paralanguage Paralanguage is nonverbal communication such as your tone, pitch or manner of speaking. Basically, it’s a fancy way of saying that you need to pay attention to how someone says something. For example, if someone is answering you in monotone, they’re most likely unattached to your concept and not interested. The use of sarcasm is another good example. When someone uses sarcasm, what the person means is actually the opposite of what the words say. So, pay attention to the emphasis they put on words and how they say it. It gives you a big clue as to what their true intentions are. Number 7 - Side Glance People that are warm and open to meeting you, will have their body facing you and they will look you in the eye. On the flip side, if you’ve just met someone and they immediately glance away to the side, this is a subconscious body language sign that means they are looking for an escape. Number 8 - Frequent Nodding Nodding is usually a sign that someone agrees with you. But, exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety, about approval. When you’re telling someone something, and they nod excessively, this means that they are worried about what you think of them, or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions. On the other hand, frequent nodding could also be unconscious gestures that are cues for the other person to get a move on - just like when a person keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys. Number 9 - Chin And Jaw When someone is trying to make a decision, they tend to rub their chin. They might be looking up, down, or to the side... It’s a sure sign that they are deep in thought. A clenched jaw is a sign of stress. Regardless of what the person is saying, this indicates a considerable level of discomfort. The conversation may be heading toward something they’re anxious about; or their mind may be elsewhere, and they’re focusing on the thing that’s stressing them out. Number 10 - Posture How someone carries themselves can give you some indications about their self confidence. For example, if someone is walking upright with their shoulders back and looking straight ahead, that gives the indication that they feel good about themselves and have confidence. However, if someone is slouching over and looking at the ground when they walk, that gives a much different impression. It may not necessarily mean that they have low self-esteem, but that’s the message it gives off. Number 11 - Rubbing Hands It is believed that the hands broadcast what the head is thinking. When a person is rubbing their hands together, generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something. People usually do this when they are hopeful about something good coming up in the future, and they’re excited about it. Number 12 - Handshake You can tell a lot by a person’s handshake. Soft and flabby - and they are likely to be submissive or a pushover. Too hard and crushing - and they are possibly domineering types. The length of time is also important. Too long and it’s weird, but too short could indicate some form of conflict. It’s possible that the person does not want to make a deep connection with you. But, it could also mean that they don’t have much time. Number 13 - Leaning In, Or Away If a person leans in toward you, it’s a clear indication that they are interested in what you have to say. What you might not know, is that it’s also a sign of respect. When people come closer and lean in toward you during a conversation, it shows that they want to confide in you. It makes you feel trustworthy and valued. If someone leans back however, they show that they are tired of the conversation, or perhaps they feel uncomfortable for some reason. Number 14 - Holding The Baby Ok…this might seem like a strange one, but it’s good to know. If you’re meeting someone for the first time, and they just happen to be a new mother, look at what arm they use to hold the baby. Studies show that happy moms tend to hold their babies in their left arm. While stressed and depressed mothers usually hold their babies in their right arm. Number 15 - Crossed Arms And Legs Have you ever had a conversation with someone who crossed their arms or legs while you were talking to them? If you’re on a first date, or if you’re trying to pitch someone a new idea, it’s not a good sign. Crossed arms and legs are physical barriers that suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying. Even if they’re smiling and engaged in a pleasant conversation, their body language tells the story. Psychologically, crossed legs or arms, signal that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in front of them. On the same note, the direction of someone’s feet are also quite revealing. A person that likes you, will have both feet facing in your direction. However, if their feet shift toward the door, it means they’ve had enough and want to leave. Number 16 - Shoes A person’s shoes can tell you a lot about their personality. Apparently, we all make judgments about people’s shoes, but studies show that they are pretty accurate. - Nervous people will have new or very clean shoes - Amiable types will wear practical shoes - Calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable shoes - And aggressive people wear ankle boots Just take a look at your own shoes. Does your personality type fit in with them? Number 17 - Overall Appearance How someone dresses and presents themselves can say volumes about them. If the person has their hair in place, their clothing pressed, and they show attention to style, they may be very detail oriented. Someone with a more casual wardrobe or “bed head” might be creative, or just messy. And then take someone who looks unkempt and smelly - they could simply be a really lazy person. Number 18 - Copying Body Language If you’ve never tried to read people before, this is something you probably haven’t noticed. But, pay close attention to it in the future, because when someone mimics your body language, it means they feel so good about you, that they want to harmonize with you. It’s a sign that the conversation is going well and that the other party is receptive to your message. This is done unconsciously – as no one walks around with the intention of outright copying someone. But when we’re comfortable with people, we have a tendency to do what they do. Some of us are pretty good at reading the signs that people give off. While others are so bad, that they need the other person to come out and straight-up tell them what’s on their mind. Reading people isn’t easy, but if you can do it, it’s a fantastic skill to have. Of course, everyone is different, so interpreting their words and actions may or may not always be accurate. But hopefully, with these tips, you’ll be well on your way to becoming better at reading people.
By Samuel Gebrehiwet3 years ago in Psyche
The Dunning-Kruger Effect
Bertrand Russell's insightful observation that "the whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are so sure of themselves, while wiser people are so full of doubt" sheds light on a fascinating psychological phenomenon known as the Dunning-Kruger Effect. This cognitive bias reveals that individuals who lack proficiency in a particular domain often overestimate their competence, while those with genuine expertise tend to underestimate themselves. This article explores the Dunning-Kruger Effect, its implications, and strategies to address it.
By Alex Bennett3 years ago in Psyche
The Layers of Mind
Dr. Rebecca Harris sat in her plush office chair, her eyes fixed on the inkblot pattern projected on the screen ahead. To anyone else, it would have appeared as an ordinary Rorschach test, but she wasn't anyone else. She was an expert at decoding the intricate patterns of the human psyche, and as she looked into the inkblot, she was certain she saw faces—tormented, twisted faces that gazed back at her with malevolent intensity.
By David Guggisberg3 years ago in Psyche
If They Wanted to Apologize, They Would. Top Story - September 2023.
In terms of closure, there are few things more powerful than an apology. Giving an apology after making the wrong choice is a healing balm. It lets the other person know that you feel remorse, but more than that it’s a promise. A promise to change behavior. A promise to be better, kinder, more compassionate or understanding the next time.
By E.B. Johnson 3 years ago in Psyche
Unveiling Reality.
In the realm of philosophy, Friedrich Nietzsche's haunting assertion, "If you gaze long into the abyss, the abyss gazes into you," holds an uncanny resonance. It's a sentiment that weaves through the fabric of our deepest ponderings, hinting at the profound transformation that accompanies the exploration of fundamental truths.
By Evans Sibilike3 years ago in Psyche
How To Make Friends With One Simple Thing
It seems that most of us want to make friends, but find it difficult, as revealed by a Pew Research Center study which found that 72% of adults say it is 'somewhat' or 'very important' to have close friends, but only 44% say it is easy to make new friends. Our ability to make friends seem to depend on our personality, especially as some people are naturally more outgoing, confident, friendly, and good at putting others at ease which tend to draw others to them. Others who are introverted may find it more difficult to put themselves out there.
By Elaine Sihera 3 years ago in Psyche
Why Random Acts Of Kindness Are So Powerful
I was at a donut shop the other day and the lady behind the counter gave me some free donuts, just because. I was shocked by the sudden act, but felt super stoked that I got free donuts. When I left the donut shop and got into my car, I felt something coming down my face and noticed that I started tearing up over free donuts.
By Jay Kobayashi3 years ago in Psyche
The Struggles And Benefits Of Advocating For A Cause:
Have you ever felt passionate about something that most people don't seem to care about? Maybe you are an environmentalist, a human rights activist, a vegan, or a supporter of a niche art form. Whatever your cause is, you probably know how hard it can be to advocate for it in a world that doesn't understand or appreciate it.
By Freddie's Lost Treasures3 years ago in Psyche
