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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.

Sometimes You Have to Disappoint People to Stop Disappointing Yourself
For a long time, I thought being a good person meant keeping everyone happy. Say yes. Be available. Don’t make things uncomfortable.
By mike2 months ago in Psyche
You Don’t Need Closure From People Who Hurt You
There is a strange kind of pain that comes from unanswered questions. Why did they leave? Why did they change? Why wasn’t I enough?
By mike2 months ago in Psyche
Some People Only Love the Version of You They Can Control
There is a strange moment that happens when you start changing. You become more confident. You start saying no. You stop explaining every decision.
By mike2 months ago in Psyche
Death by a Thousand Paper Cuts: The Psychology of Quiet Bullying
They picture shouting, insults, threats, humiliation in front of a crowd or physical intimidation. Those forms of bullying certainly exist and because they are obvious, they are easier for others to recognize. It is easy to recognize a man hovering over a woman and using his presence to intimidate her into submission or when an adult does it to a child or even another adult; or even a child to an adult. Obvious aggression is so easy to recognize that it leaves little to no debate when it happens; usually the masses can agree on it quickly.
By Cadma2 months ago in Psyche
Are Your Emotions Really The Problem?
Written by a human, for humans, always. Emotions. We all have them. Most of us struggle with them. But the question that is worth asking...
By H.E. Dr. Cody Dakota Wooten, COIE, DFM, DHM2 months ago in Psyche
The Invisible Weight
We spend most of our lives adapting. We roll with the punches, figure things out as we go, and generally learn how to handle tough situations as we get older. But every now and then, a deep, heavy exhaustion creeps in—not because one massive thing went wrong, but because the same quiet, exhausting family dynamics keep happening over and over again.
By Sara C2 months ago in Psyche
Why Can't I Just Catch a Break? The Hidden Reasons Behind Repeated Illness & Life Setbacks
When you have gone through adversity after adversity (no matter the magnitude of such adversities); it is natural to ask yourself this question, as well as the following question:
By Justine Crowley2 months ago in Psyche
THE SCAPEGOAT’S CUP
Every ancient village had a scapegoat. One creature chosen to carry the sins of the tribe into the wilderness. The ritual was symbolic.
By THE HONED CRONE2 months ago in Psyche
THE ALCHEMY OF NAMING THE WOUND
There is a strange distortion that happens in the aftermath of abuse. The survivor finally begins to speak. Finally begins to understand.
By THE HONED CRONE2 months ago in Psyche
THE CARTOGRAPHER’S ERROR
There is a peculiar danger in expertise. The danger is not ignorance. The danger is believing your map is the territory. A person may spend decades studying narcissism, psychopathy, personality disorders, coercive control, or trauma. They may construct elegant theories, persuasive lectures, and detailed classifications. Those models may help thousands of people understand what happened to them.
By THE HONED CRONE2 months ago in Psyche
Sometimes I Daydream That I Could Stop Daydreaming
My entire life I have been what most people refer to as a "dreamer." Of course, I have been referred to as several other things that were much less tame or polite too. The most painful among them being "lazy." Sadly, when I say "my entire life" I truly mean my entire life... all 46 years I've been on this planet. It was only very recently that I realized that I have severe adult ADHD.
By Timothy A Rowland2 months ago in Psyche
The Scariest Thing About Growing Up Is Realizing Nobody Has It Figured Out
When you're a child, adults seem different. They have answers. They make decisions without hesitation. They drive cars. Pay bills.
By mike2 months ago in Psyche