How to relieve anxiety in daily life?

People are generally anxious nowadays.

Some people get up in the morning to listen to the "60 seconds speech" sent by Luo Jisi, and after listening to it, they send it to the group for their friends to praise; on the way to work, they wear headphones and listen to the "5 minutes to listen to a book" in Himalaya, and secretly rejoice that they have grown a lot; when they go to work When I'm at work, I'm still busy, frantically brushing up the funny answers on Zhihu. Every day is full of arrangements for yourself, afraid that if you miss a little, you will lose a lot. These are all signs of anxiety.

Generally speaking, there are mild and severe symptoms of anxiety. Remember when you were lying in your dorm room tossing and turning before a big grade exam and the jitters you felt on your first sweet date? They are the reactions that produce mild anxiety when we are faced with stressful situations.

This mild anxiety is good for people, and can make you full of energy, and be careful, before the deadline to complete the work quickly, or in the life of the road to help you try to overcome difficulties, out of the way.

But heavy anxiety is not so simple. It is like a tie tied around your neck, will automatically shrink the tie, wrapped around you, strangling you until you can not breathe. Severe anxiety not only affects our efficiency in doing things, but it can also seriously erode our minds and wreak havoc on our moods

Many people with severe anxiety are nervous, fearful, and sometimes extremely sensitive to care when they hear a word spoken among others at random and turn to become worried.

First of all, let's be clear, why do people get anxious?

I believe that there are two reasons.

How to relieve anxiety in daily life?

First: what you want to do, you can't do it. Or the degree of completion is very low, not achieving the perfect standard in mind.

There is a very common saying that "the harder you work, the more anxious you get". Why? Because the ideal and the reality of the gap are too big, although every day does a lot of things, never reach the ideal shore. Not willing to lag behind others, and not willing to stand still, but can not become a better version of themselves in a shorter period, and feel angry at their incompetence. In the end, the more you try, the more anxious you get, falling into an endless circle of anxiety, torturing yourself day after day.

It's like those insomniacs who want to get to sleep late at night, but always feel like they have a lot of unfinished business. The more you want to get enough sleep, the more you keep fiddling with your fingers up and down, brushing a certain sound to brush a certain blog, and finally until dawn.

Secondly: worrying about things that are difficult to control and will happen soon. Whether it is the food on your table or not, you always feel that the side of the bread that falls on the ground is buttered.

The eyes are far away and everything is sad. A pessimistic person is more likely to be wrapped up in everyday anxiety. There are all kinds of things to worry about in everyone's life. Those unpredictable critical situations are like the sword of Damocles hanging overhead, never knowing when it will fall. With this bone-deep fear, it is natural to be anxious and difficult to move forward.

These two reasons come together, we can know that the long busy work, heavy life affairs, emotional frustration, confusion about the future ...... When these external pressures intersect with their problems, the inner will be confused and lost, and finally sad and painful, resulting in anxiety.

Anxiety is an oppressive fantasy about our situation.

This fantasy is similar to the bad, spoiled, easy-to-breed malignant bacteria, not only contagious but also comes with its own drug-resistant body, no matter how expelled, which will always run to our inner heart, especially in our Chinese body.

So how can we solve this internal illusion, stop anxiety?

It's simple: never be afraid of how things are going and don't indulge in oppressive fantasies.

There are countless ways to solve the various problems that everyone suffers from in life, never use only the one in your mind to solve them, or just feel helpless and helpless. Even if you face death head-on and teeter on the edge of life and death, you can still choose to smile and send off unhindered.

If we find the event difficult to solve, we can split the goal, prioritize the primary task, and go to the remaining tasks in an organized manner. Then don't delay and act immediately. One of the best tricks for relieving anxiety is to do it right away.

Don't fantasize about how bad your situation is, actively change your mindset, sharpen your heart, tear apart the cobwebs of fantasy woven by stress and confusion, stop feeling overwhelmed, and be the self that just wants to box, and you will get the final victory in the tournament.

Believe that you can do what you have not been able to do, become the person you have always wanted to be, do not have to worry, only focus on the moment and work hard, do well for yourself, no more anxiety, calmly face the ups and downs in life, create their own wonderful.