A Love Letter for When the Societal Pressures Flood In

In an age of manufactured individuality, it is difficult to hold onto your uniqueness. It is easy to become ensnared in the matrix when we have standards placed in our faces every single time we reach for our phones. It is essential to be true to yourself, no matter what the world tries to do to you. As if striving for perfection wasn't enough, we also have to conform to social pressures. Social media allows us to see how and what our decisions are being scrutinized by the masses.

Beyond the Society's definition of Unique

As children, we learn about the world as a family unit. As we learn more about the world, our perceptions change. We adapt to the family environment we are given in our childhood and view our caregiver's beliefs as "life’s laws". Of course, our views are often distorted by our parents in our early years and we begin to develop our own opinions. The world and its social pressures will come to us before we can be committed to our vision. Uniqueness extends beyond our physical appearance. It also impacts our lives and how we think. This is the right place for you if you're a non-traditional person who likes to live your life on your terms. It is easy to feel guilty about straying from the norm in life. It takes wisdom and strength to know who you are and follow that path.

You can create your own path, free from the pressures of society

People are often surprised to learn that I was more interested than marriage in motherhood. Women are expected to desire a big, beautiful wedding and to meet the man of their dreams in her twenties. Sometimes, after finding the man of our dreams, we are expected to have a child and then find the right house for our child to live in. Although this is a wonderful outcome, it's not the way everyone's stories end. If you try to follow the same path that everyone else, you can end up feeling like a failure and lead to internal destruction. Because we all have unique qualities, there is no way to be a human being.

Some people are meant for college and some aren't. Some of us may have difficulty carrying children and will experience many other challenges along the way. These events can be viewed as losses when compared to the timeline and expectations that were set for us. Sometimes following the crowd of general beliefs will take you to places you weren't meant to go.

Be open to authenticity.

People in my life are often unable to understand many of the decisions that I have made. However, I realized early that we are not here to please our loved ones but to satisfy ourselves. This is your life. In the end, you only have the memories and choices you made. It's fine to be a woman who doesn't want to marry. If you're a woman who doesn't want to have children, it is fine. It's okay to not want to go to college or have a traditional house - this is the American Dream.

You can always change your mind because life is constantly changing and you learn new things every day. It is okay to live outside the confines of popular opinion. Hidden aspects of who you are can stunt your growth in ways that cannot always be reversed.

These are the ways that I embrace my true self with mindfulness:

• You have the right to feel good about wearing what you like.
• To promote clarity and order in your life, write down the characteristics of your future self regularly.
• Accept others as they , even if you disagree with their choices.
• Do not allow anyone to try to invalidate or confuse you.
• Loudly live. To make others feel more at ease, don't deny who and what you are.
• Be confident in your abilities and beliefs

These tips can help you make important decisions regarding your family, career, and any other life matters. You must take care of yourself. Living the life you want should not be frowned upon. You are in control of your life, as long as you don't harm anyone. Sometimes we feel we owe it all to the people who raised us to become who we are. Sometimes we feel we must fulfill a role in order to be accepted into society. But there is no peace.

It is important to discover who you are, and then follow that person every day. You will inspire others to find their home. Joy is simple to find. This intrigues and fascinates me. Joy is on the other side, however, of difficult decisions we often fear making. Let me remind you to follow your own rules. It's your life, Pretty Birds. Be confident. Don't be afraid to lean in.