self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Kung Fu Legend
There is a legend of a dragon that lives in a cave—a fierce creature that is the root of all despair, hate, jealousy, and much more for all of the world. It is said that the dragon is undying, and yet, it can be beaten. It is also said that a hero who beats the dragon becomes free of its plague on the world.
Oliver LaoshiPublished 6 years ago in MotivationIntrospect
Why can't I just learn the easy way? I always seem to gravitate towards the hard way of learning. Sometimes, I find myself in the same situation over and over, like a goldfish continuously hitting its head against the reflective tank wall... when will I learn? Will I ever learn, or am I doomed to a similar fate to our poor, clueless, little goldfish? You see, the difference between me and the goldfish is that I actually have a sharply functioning memory. I am typically, to some extent, aware of the consequences of my choices, and even more so for the choices I've made in the past that resulted in a negative outcome. Yet, I still choose to turn a blind eye to the negative outcome reaped from poor past choices, and put the pleasure gained from such choices up on a pedestal. I then develop tunnel vision, and run with full force straight into a very dangerous and/or painful situation. I tend to justify my poor choice with thoughts such as 'I will handle this situation in such a way where I will not get hurt this time' or 'Maybe something has changed and I will have a whole new experience.' I seem to be my own worst enemy in this aspect of self. It really all comes down to choice, and choosing to be consciously aware of the small, momentary and almost subconscious choices made. Choices like the fleet of tiny choices made in forming one's perception, how one views people, places, situations, and things. It seems to me that to take control of one's thoughts and perception would take awareness, commitment, determination, and patience. It seems to me that training oneself to do such a thing would be absolutely life transforming. I find the phrase, "It's all in your head" to be an accurate expressional phrase for something we all know to be life itself. Because everything you see, hear, feel, create, destroy, sense, find, win, lose, gain, trust, hate, fear, and basically experience, is all in your head. Perception is a beautiful and complex phenomenon, and one can never be too aware of the little flight of thoughts that form one's perception. Awareness is indeed half of a tumultuous journey to one's higher self. The other half is action. Self-examination, reading, writing, meditation, affirmations, soul seeking, searching, positive intention, and of course the determination to kick one's own ass into choosing to take the necessary action. It is far too easy to go on about such things for a few moments, but when the time comes to get down to business, Netflix and friends and drama OH MY! Distractions and money and bills oh no! To summarize, it's easier said than done. It's easy to be lazy. Even with a full-time job, and a million things going on, everyone has downtime. It is up to oneself to make time for self-improvement. Take ten minutes a day if that is all one has, and meditate. Set the intention for the day. One must ensure awareness of what one wants and values in life, and what must be done to get there. Meditation is important, as it is far too easy to get caught up in the fast flowing river of thoughts, or lost in the "Tulgey Woods" of the mind (watch the original cartoon version of Alice In Wonderland to understand this reference) and to just sit in complete mental silence can be so very beneficial for one's personal growth! To conclude, this self-help seeking piece of my mind: I know what I must do. I'm aware, and now I must take the necessary action to become the very best version of myself. I 100 percent know I am fully capable of doing this.
Naomi GracePublished 6 years ago in MotivationThe Crossroads of Mental Illness and Philosophy
The Unalome—a Buddhist symbol for the path to enlightenment. At the time I got the tattoo, it meant, for me, the notion that everyone has their own intimately diverse path, but that each and every one is essentially leading to the very same place; enlightenment.
Little WandererPublished 6 years ago in MotivationThe 5 Lessons That Helped Me Learn to Love Who I Am
I have learned a few things in my 19 short years. By observing the people, I have surrounded myself with, I have learned more about who I am and who I want to be than I ever thought was possible. When I was younger, it’s obvious that I had less of a choice when it came to the people who influenced me, but never the less, they taught me just as much as the people that surround me now. I would like to share with you a few lessons that have had the biggest impact on the way I live my life now.
Grace D'AprilePublished 6 years ago in MotivationTo Be or Not to Be
“Ain’t nobody gonna piss on you!” were the words of a man by the name of Ryp (Roy) Riley. It means nothing other than, no matter what you do, as long as you keep being you no one will, harm, touch, or mess with who you are. Self-expression is a problem that teens and even adults struggle with. Whether from fear of friends' opinions, others' judgment, or simply not knowing where to start. The latter being a problem that must be solved.
Delaney HewettPublished 6 years ago in MotivationTrust the Process
I've always felt like such a late bloomer. Ever since I was a kid, I would observe my peers and my friends. I would see them excel at certain things I felt I was not able to easily get. I would see them getting those math problems, earning those awards, and nailing those grades. I would even see girls blooming into maturity, dating the cool guy, or just enjoying popularity. I realized I was definitely different and I learned at an early age to appreciate my individuality. Since "comparison is the thief of joy." I allowed myself to observe without envy. Also, my mother always made it clear that God gave me my own gifts and I would learn to appreciate them and utilize them as I got older and I believed her. This truth allowed me to start looking for my strengths early on so I could cultivate them.
Karina NistalPublished 6 years ago in MotivationBest Self-Help Audiobooks
From self-help books about your love life to the business world, these books are just a download away to providing you with the knowledge that will improve anyone's life.
Kelsey LangePublished 6 years ago in MotivationBest-Selling Self-Help Books to Get Your Hands On
I truly believe that everyone out there could benefit from leafing through one or two best-selling self-help books out there. Whether it's a book about learning to clean up your life, or a book that helps millions stay clean, top-rated books on self-improvement have inspired millions to change their lives for the better.
Ossiana TepfenhartPublished 6 years ago in MotivationB to the R to the A to the V to the E...
Courage. Courage. Courage. Sometimes all a person needs is this seven lettered word to make one heck of a difference in their life.
Faith ZielinskiPublished 6 years ago in MotivationA Quarter-life Crisis of a Black Girl
I had a pretty good childhood, surrounded by people who loved me and cared about me, quite strict parents, but good friends I could always count on.
P BPublished 6 years ago in MotivationReasons to Grow
It suddenly occurred to me that terms like self-development, self-growth, inner work and so on - can be misunderstood by many as if they imply lack of self-love and contradict my whole emphasis on it. No, no - wanting to grow has nothing to do with you being less than or you not loving yourself. The opposite is true - once you get a taste of evolving, it will become obvious that there's nothing that screams self-love louder. Let me explain. There are two very distinct ways to look at changing yourself. First one - the one that comes to mind when we don't love and don’t value ourselves, goes something like this: "Something is wrong with me, I need to change that or nobody will love me, I don't feel I'm good enough so I need to do something about it." To be honest - a lot of us feel this way without ever admitting it to ourselves. But it is not the truth and hence nothing can be done about it except learning to love ourselves. Many might strive to improve their outer appearance or become more successful or to be liked by more people - whatever it takes to prove to themselves they are worthy. But the external validation never lasts, it is not about others - hence the term “self-love.” I wrote a post about self-love in more depth. In this current one, I want to discuss what happens when you succeed in it to some degree. First thing that comes to mind - you start to see beauty in the imperfection. Even if things appear messy - it is always up to us how to look at them and perceive ourselves and our life. But that's just the tip of the iceberg. The beauty of life and you living it goes way deeper than we have ever been told. Why? Because it is your personal journey of exploration and learning - mainly learning about yourself. It is widely accepted that what makes life worth living is what you have on the outside - good job, family, friends etc. Those things are important and are a big part of our human experience. But this is not why we are here. We are here to evolve. Spiritually. To grow and learn and transform our consciousness into higher levels. If this sounds too new agey, in other words - we are here to become the best version of ourselves.
Eva SmittePublished 6 years ago in Motivation5 Ways to Be More Adventurous
Let me just start by saying that anything that pushes you beyond your personal comfort zone IS ADVENTUROUS! So that's the good news! What's adventurous to you might not be to someone else and that's FINE.
TamaraPublished 6 years ago in Motivation