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I'm Scared!
When we think about fear, we often relate it back to things such as snakes, spiders, heights, enclosed spaces, flying, darkness, storms, needles, and judgment. Despite all of these such things, one of the biggest fears that people have in life is one called decidophobia. Never heard of it? Well this fear doesn't necessarily bring about the same reaction as say how we would react to having a spider on us, or coming into close contact with a snake, and so on, if we had those relative phobias. The reason being is that we can easily escape from this fear, and as it then poses us no threat, then that fear becomes instantly isolated, and we feel that sense of comfort and relief once again. So what exactly is decidophobia? It is simply a fear of making decisions. Sounds a bit weak, hey? How can someone be scared of making decisions, you may ask, right? This could be any decision that one is confronted with, or one that needs to be made, but it more than often revolves around the bigger issues in life. The phobia itself can result in panic attacks, extreme anxiety, and severe stress, but as I mentioned above, because most people find a way to avoid making any decisions that may cause this anxiety, stress, and panic, it's not really a well renowned and discussed issue. The truth is, it is extremely common, proven by people's lack of action, which I will discuss more of in a minute. When we face circumstances in life that continually make us more and more uncomfortable, it's normally life giving us this subtle kick up the bum, telling us that we need to make changes. We are faced with internal decisions in our mind, rather than external decisions that are handed to us to be made. Because they don't have to be made, we feel comfort in the fact that we can therefore avoid them. It could be that we are in a relationship in which our partner is treating us poorly, or they are not being honest, or they are not supporting us, or they are failing to show us love, and so on, but we choose to remain in that relationship, even though we are unhappy and miserable. Why? Because we are too scared to make the decision of parting ways with that person, and ending that relationship. We are fearful of what the future will hold for us without them. We are fearful they may react and respond in an aggressive manner. We are fearful that other people may judge and criticize us for such a decision. We are fearful about having to sort out the equal division of all assets. We have all these such fears and more, running through our head about what may transpire if we made such a decision, that we end up avoiding making the decision altogether. We therefore choose to remain unhappy and miserable rather than have to face up to a tough decision.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Don’t Waste Time And Money Reading Motivational Books
Most, if not all of us, are getting fooled by so-called motivational speakers and writers. We spend enormous amounts of our hard-earned money attending their seminars or purchasing their books and tapes, with minimal or no results. Quite often, the outcome may be catastrophic.
By Ranjan Venkatesan5 years ago in Motivation
Art Healed Me
I've always been creative since I can remember. It just never stuck the way it should have. When you're life is literally in someone else's hands and you can't just up and make decisions, it can take a few knocks from your self esteem little by little. Every time my dreams and desires were ignored, I died a little more inside. Whenever someone projected their fears onto me, I died a little more inside.
By Breana Anora Maxwell-Radcliffe 5 years ago in Motivation
LISTENING TO "THE CALL"
Peace In, Everyone... It's 2:30 am, on a Sunday in June, 2021... And she does not know why she can't sleep. She’s the one in her family that most often can fall asleep with zero effort on her part. When the body says "it's over for the day buddy" - it's like her internal lights get the signal to just automatically shut off, shutting down her drooping eyelids for hours at a time.
By Shakeenah K Fentis5 years ago in Motivation
BOSSING THE BOSS
• Are you vexed with your boss? • Has your boss taken away your peace of mind? • Has your boss made your work and non-work life miserable? • Does your boss always complain, despite you consistently delivering great results? • Is your boss selfish and always putting his/her interests above the work and team? • Does your boss lack adequate courage to take bold decisions when needed?
By Scott James5 years ago in Motivation
Less Talk, More Action!
One of the biggest flaws that humankind has never been able to eliminate, or even just improve on, is inaction. Time and time again, we find ourselves making a statement, adamant that we will do something, and constantly talking the talk, yet all too often, we fail to execute or engage in the actions to support our words. Politicians are a classic example of such behavior. How many times do we hear them make promises that they will do this, and they will do that, in order to support their fellow citizens and enhance their country, and yet they fail to act on those promises? Let's not point the finger at politicians though, because you and I are just as guilty of inaction. I hear so many examples of people who state they will start working towards their goals, and they will commit to scheduling in the time to do so, yet they never do. Question them why, and they will respond with the same old excuses, such as "they haven't had the time", or "they've been too busy", or "now is just not the right time". What happens from here? They never get around to it! They continually allow themselves to get caught up in their everyday life, focusing on tasks and activities that shouldn't even be a priority to them, and yet they wonder why they are not happy and satisfied in life. Then you have those individuals who are always complaining about being overweight. They either tell themselves, or others, that they are going to do better with their diet, and they are going to exercise more regularly and intensely, and yet there they are a few weeks later, lazing on the couch snacking on chips and chocolate. Another common example of inaction comes from tobacco smokers. Time and time again, they tell themselves, and others, that they are going to quit, because they know it's negatively impacting their health, and yet a few weeks, a few months, even a few years later, there they are with another cigarette in their hand, smoking away. Granted that smoking can easily become addiction, it still doesn't excuse us from exercising our willpower. Words are easy! Anyone can say anything they like, but words hold no meaning unless they are supported with action. So, in essence, all we are really doing, is lying. Not only are we lying to others, we are lying to ourselves also. Lying, after all, is a clear indication of a lack of integrity. That's not a good reflection of our character.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
How To Fill Your Heart And Soul With Joy
Not too many years ago I had a friend called James who worked for the Beneton Formula One racing team. One evening James told me over a meal that years before he had joined the French Foreign Legion. One day he just got bored being a shop assistant in a London clothes store. However, James yearned adventure and excitement. So he just closed the store door one last time and took himself off to the south of France.
By Liam Ireland5 years ago in Motivation
An American Folktale, It's My Favorite Story and My Family's Favorite Too
"I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. I know I can.” Watty Piper As a child, as a mother, and as a grandmother, my favorite bedtime story is The Little Engine That Could. While I've read hundreds of children's stories at bedtime to my children and to my grandchildren, this American folktale by Watty Piper, Arnold Munk's pen name, is a classic. Besides being very positive and uplifting, the motivational story deals with overcoming problems and challenges and finding solutions. Providing children a positive mindset and practical message, the story addresses problems and challenges that happen in life; and when there is a problem, there is always a solution. Indeed, it is a very important lesson that children can learn from this story.
By Babs Iverson5 years ago in Motivation
Financial Coach and Best-Selling Author, Shereen Reeves:
Retired Lieutenant Colonel and Best-Selling Author of “Drop the Bomb: A Guide to Get Out of Debt and Stay Out of Debt,” Shereen Reeves, has set the tone for paving the way people get out of debt. From writing a book to coaching, Shereen Reeves has stopped at nothing to ensure people can live financially free lives. As a matter of fact, she has built an institution around it.
By Dr. P. Gurley5 years ago in Motivation
Four ways to handle a energy vampire
That unexplainable sense of exhaustion you feel after the conversation with that person. You feel you are drained off all your life energy and a slight gloom sets in (even though you had just finished a heavy dinner with that person).
By Rashmi G5 years ago in Motivation
The Choice Is Yours
We should never underestimate the power of the mind. Even though the mind has just the three basic functions, being that of wanting, feeling, and thinking, the impact it has on our life is incomprehensible. Everything from perception, to memory, to attention, to learning, to reasoning, to decision making, to problem solving, to emotion, to understanding, you name it, the mind is extraordinary with what it can do. Like with any part of our body, the mind requires conditioning and training. Unlike the muscles that form in our arms, legs, torso, etc. from regular training and strengthening exercises at the gym, we can't exactly shove a set of weights inside our head and have our mind do some bench presses. Strengthening and training of the mind revolves around control, awareness, and focus. The difference though with strengthening of the mind, in comparison to the strengthening of other areas of our body, is that we cannot visually see our mind grow from the training and conditioning it receives. A typical common human flaw is that when we don't visually see something, we don't often value it, care for it, or believe in it. It's just like the journey towards success, that if we don't see positive results being manifested, then we start believing that the success won't eventuate, hence why so many of us give up. We want to see some sort of visual results, just so we can feel comforted that we are making progress. The reality is, if we are progressing towards success, no matter how slow it may be, and no matter how many failures, setbacks, rejections, and challenges we encounter, we are still moving forward towards success. Often, results don't visually appear as we hope or anticipate, but it doesn't mean we are not progressing. Because we don't see the mind, like we do the muscles in our body, most of us completely undervalue the importance of mindset training, and instead focus completely on physical training instead, as we can visually see those muscles begin to build and develop. Whilst there is absolutely nothing wrong with physical training, and we should all be doing more of it, we should also be doing way more mindset training, because a weak mind only leads to a weak future.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
