People in middle age, learn to shut up

In some words, the speaker has no intention, the listener intends, for no reason will incur the disaster of death.

Although everyone has the right to speak freely, unrestrained nonsense, and ultimately will only hurt people and hurt themselves.

Sometimes, you have a mouth without meaning to say, in other people seem to be ulterior motives, think you are sarcastic, provoke him, against him

When you are young, you can still excuse that the sex is straight, and can not speak, but people in middle age, the understanding, should not understand all, otherwise how to live the rest of your life.

The most important thing is that you can have a few friends.

Do people, when they shut up, we have to shut up.

1, appropriate shut up, do not talk about right and wrong

Nietzsche said, "Do not evaluate others, do not easily judge others, do not gossip after people, less to think about how others, this is the practice of good people."

In the workplace, often see some people, who like to talk badly behind the backs of others, either gossip about this person, or talk about that person gossip, immersed in it, can not extricate themselves.

There are also some people things to listen to rough like talking to others everywhere, people's affairs as a talking point, everywhere, so that rumors flying around.

In the past, there are beautiful girls in the workplace promotion, there will always be people who say she is submarine rules up, said with style, but forget how hard she worked.

Almost from the start, she was the earliest to work every day, the latest to leave work, and talked down a lot of difficult projects, but because she was beautiful people with ulterior motives made rumors.

At that time, many people looked at her differently, and some even provoked her with their words, and finally, the most aggressive people were fired after her promotion.

She said, "I don't mind people talking behind my back, but I don't want people who just talk gossip and don't do anything."

Talking about people behind their backs, how can others not know?

Do not say, does not mean that there is no such thing, some accounts should be calculated, will always be calculated, as retribution, not unrewarded, the time has not come.

There is time to talk about gossip, rather than more snacks on the job, what others say, appropriate shut up, is the way to survive in the workplace.

Tighten your brain, slow to open your mouth, only talk about the position, not about right and wrong, say more right and wrong, just a waste of time, offend people.

Never mind the rumors flying around, do not get involved, do your own, do your part, and try to improve yourself.

2, appropriate shut up, be careful what you say and do

It is said that there are things to say, but straight talk is easy to hurt people, sometimes talk or have to go through the head, think clearly about what to say, what not to say, otherwise, it will only offend people.

I have a friend who always speaks without thinking, and can offend people at the drop of a hat.

That day, another friend moved house and invited us to dinner.

During the meal, everyone was congratulating him for buying a house at a young age, but he coldly said: "This house is a mortgage, right, divided into a few years ah."

It made everyone embarrassed and didn't know what to say, but he asked, "If you lost your job, it would be easy to lose your mortgage payment. Do you have to scrimp on food and clothing?" Looking at the host's face changed, I could only find an excuse to leave and pull my friend away, by the way, otherwise, I might end up having to fight.

Afterward, I scolded him, "Why are you looking for trouble for nothing."

I never thought, instead of reflecting on it, he said, "I'm just straightforward if you have something to say, if you want to ask, ask ah."

But how can this be used as an excuse, only to make people think that you have low emotional intelligence?

Not everyone can tolerate your straightforwardness, unrepentantly continue to talk nonsense, and finally will only make themselves no friends.

In interpersonal communication, arbitrarily talk nonsense, easy to hurt people who are sincere friends with you, so properly learn to shut up, be careful to behave, and do not always rely on the "straight nature" to talk nonsense.

People in middle age, still do not know how to talk, and finally will only make themselves into a loner.

3.

Can eat more food, but not more words.

Should say, should not say, more or less should always understand.

You do not want to be said behind people's backs, do not say behind others.

What you do not want, do not do to others.

Whenever and wherever you should learn to shut up properly to avoid causing unnecessary trouble.

I have seen a case of news, that said that someone in a restaurant drunkenly lost his tongue, and ended up angering each other, making a fight, each other were injured, and even someone was seriously injured.

It was just a dinner party, but it turned into a farce.

In the final analysis, it is drunken indiscretion to talk nonsense, so that, be careful what you say, learn to shut up, is the way to do things for people, otherwise, a little carelessness will cause unnecessary trouble, offend others, and suffer.

Do people, then shut up when, or to shut up?