How to Be Confident in Life

Be Confident & Believe In Yourself

Undeniably, confidence and self-assurance are surely one of the most common traits of successful people. This superpower, alone, can boost one's life to its highest peak. The courage to speak up, the determination to take action, the strong endurance of pain…

Sound badass, right?

The sureness of oneself, and the confidence of believing "I will make it" will definitely and extremely helpful when hardship and adversity rise up.

If you have the confidence to make it happen and you don't let up and don't give up, then for sure, it will happen. - Clark Kegley

That's why, in this article, I'll share four of the most common habits that confident people have that will help you gain more confidence and be more productive.

1. Removing Your Own Limiting Belief

Trust Yourself

Have you ever heard the phrase that says "Sometimes, you are your own worst enemy."

Most of the time, it's your own negative self-talk that is stopping you from reaching your true potential. Your so-called "shadow" creeps in when something sparks your heart within and inspires you to follow the path you feel is right. You say things to yourself like:

"I want to do it, but my parents can't support me."

"I want to try it out, but I don't think I'm that good."

"I wish to go out there, but I'm not talented enough."

The truth is you can do it. You have the absolute power to achieve it. No circumstances can draw you back and beat you down. The only thing preventing you from that goal of yours is you yourself.

Get rid of that "shadow". Eliminate negative self-talk. Hold your head high and start chasing.

2. Ditch perfectionist's mindset

Avoid Perfectionism

When it comes to showing our work to the public, we often try to get to the best, and the "perfect" form of our work. We tend to polish it for weeks and months, but the work doesn't seem to reach our perfect standard.

People thrive to be "perfect", but underneath its glittering surface, there are fears of rejections, denials, and failures.

Contrary to most people's beliefs, perfectionism is just an illusory form of the fear of making mistakes and failure.

The big problem with perfectionism is that you procrastinate on and on and never get to the end because you think you could do things better.

You have to keep in mind that the work you create now will always be of lower quality than the work you're able to create in the future. You can't possibly be perfect at the start.

You will slowly be building your skill and become better in due course.

So, don't try to be "perfect" at the beginning. Start your work and, boldly, share your work with the public. This is the right way to become better and more skillful at your work and eventually become confident at it.

3. Doing something even if you don't think you are ready

Have an Action-First Mindset

We often try to search for so much information; to get ourselves "ready" to pursue our desired goals and dreams - it's one of the sneakiest forms of procrastination out there.

The trouble comes when you are obsessively trying to gather more and more information without starting on doing the actual thing. You feel like you are progressing, but in fact, you're not even close to it.

Yes, it's important to start off knowing the fundamentals of it, but researching shouldn't be taking too much time. After done researching, action must be taken on what you've learned - not gathering more information.

There's also one deteriorating factor of it: the more information you gather, the more contradicting advice you'll find, the more different options and strategies you'll discover, and the more examples you'll find of the risks and failure

This information overload can increase your stress level and anxiety, or even worse, it could even make your goals and objectives more complex than they need to be.

There's no better alternative than real-life experience. This exact experience can consolidate your knowledge and give us clarification.

Now, I'm not saying preparing is bad. I still have to contemplate when it comes to certain activities. But, I'd recommend doing this parallel to taking action in the real world so that you'll feel more confident about it.

4. Stop Overthinking

Worrying Doesn't Help You

It's natural for all of us to think before we act. However, if you passed the limit, thinking becomes overwhelming and daunting. Unnecessary anxieties and worries increase and that makes you less confident about the thing you want to do.

Research has shown that 85% of the things we worry about never happen.

So, stop worrying and thinking too much. You can't change the future by worrying. Instead, be confident, and try the best you can in the present.

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future. - Isak Dinesan

Now that I've shared these tips with you, it's up to you now. I'm certain one of the habits I've mentioned above will boost your overall productivity and confidence.

Take action and reap the benefits.