Afraid of dying?

No matter how hard I try, I can’t remember what it was like. I'm aware I was, but I have no idea what it was like.

Regardless if we want to admitted or not, we all fear death. Our impending mortality is something that walks by our side on this journey called life. Our thoughts, our behavior, what we comply to do, what we despise, most of our current actions revolt around the unconscious fact we need to survive and stay clear of death, but at some point, we all have to face it. .. again.

Our bodies and minds are just mere rentals, given to us to enjoy the pleasures of physical existence. I’ve already experience it, you have already experience it, we have all already experience it. Even if you are a believer that your spirit, soul, energy, is infinite, it must go back, and so do I.

Where? You might ask… I don’t know, I can’t recall.

If you’re a believer of an afterlife, there must be a “Before Life.” If you end up somewhere, there must be somewhere where you must have come before physical consciousness. If you argue that you must be born physically to get access to an afterlife, you’re declaring that you must be a physical entity to get complete access to a non-physical entity, what a paradox right there. No matter how hard we try to make sense of this, if there’s an afterlife, we must have come from that same place in the beginning, but who am I to put into words all this? I can’t recall.

You have been dead before, so do I. What is there? I don’t know, I can’t recall.

Before you were born, you were fine inside this nothingness we can’t recall. Being in terms with our mortality is the scary part. We rarely discuss it with a level of honesty, it’s not common to expose our vulnerability, our ego won’t let us. It is extremely rare that such topic comes in conversation, and it’s rare to dwell in the fact that we all be back to where we started in a relatively short span of time.

However, its necessary to confront such thoughts, by becoming totally aware of our mortality, we intensify our experience on this transitory stage called “Life.” No matter what we do our say to get our minds away from this topic, the awareness of it will continue to buzz inside of us. Just like a mechanical clock ticking non-stop, if you don’t embrace the buzzing, it becomes louder and intrusive.

But what if we use this pulse just like musicians use a metronome. This sensation can become our driving force, our guide instead of our cause of anxiety. A drum player uses all the technology available at his disposal to keep time. Inside their on-ear headphones, they hear a click that follows the song’s tempo. Just like that we can use that buzz to help us enjoy the experience of our time on earth.

Doing things the second time around is way less intimidating that doing them for the first time. We all have been dead before, why should we fear what we have already experience many times before? We should come to terms with the fact that we will experience it again and we will be perfectly ok. If you put things in perspective, we have been there before, the only issue, I can’t recall.

To reduce fear of what we have already experience before, we need to embrace life at its fullest. It’s better to spend our time doing things that truly inspire and motivate us than to be anxious about what’s to come. A common quick-fix to a meaningful life could be being a slave of material possessions only to realize that you want things until you got them. There's always something more, nothing fills the hole.

In the end, we will be no longer experience things the same way, that’s part of the human experience. Like a trip to our favorite tourist destination, we should not let the awareness of our trip’s ending to ruin our vacation, because if a vacation went of forever, it won’t be a vacation at all.

Don’t let the feeling of losing it ruin your ability to enjoy it. More that overcoming the knowledge of our own mortality, we should fear not overcoming the idea of being dead and not truly enjoy being alive, right here, right now.