A Good Woman

A good woman will never force a man to realize she is a good woman. If he doesn't recognize that on his own, it's his loss, not yours.

A woman leaves you mentally first. After she's checked your phone or DMs and saw what she saw… She'll spend the rest of the time in the relationship disconnecting from you…Before a woman ultimately leaves, she first destroys any liking for you mentally…Staring at you while you watch TV from the kitchen in silence is a woman's process of destroying the image she once had of you in her mind. The arrogance a man shows, thinking she doesn't know, is why she leaves.

At some point in their lives, all men will mentally wake up one day and ask fundamental questions about their last relationship with a woman. No man wants to be a disappointment to a woman, but sometimes men have this idea that a woman will always be there for them no matter if they are no longer together. I have been in past relationships with men that think this exact way and then get pissed off because the woman has chosen to mentally disconnect from you.

We as women were created to bring beauty and peace to a man, but if the man is not spending the right amount of time communicating with the women, he will often have many unnecessary issues. Most men think that if the woman is nagging them all the time, they seem ungrateful and shellfish. No, men, it is the woman's way of letting you know that she still believes in your vision and dreams, but you have to meet her halfway.

The woman is not nagging you for no reason, fellas. She is holding you accountable for your actions and holding you accountable for your dreams, and for building a life with her. Men, if you know that you are not ready to step your game up and pour positivity into your woman, guess what? She can and will find someone else to give her what she needs. Now please understand that it is our nature to bring life into this world, so let us women be just that.

The arrogance a man shows, thinking she doesn't know, is why she leaves in the first place. We as women will put up with your lies, your mind changing all the time because you are so indecisive about your intentions and your actions show these things to us. Men, you have to learn to be able to meet us where we are in life, and I don't mean to take advantage of us because you know part of our hurts. No, I mean to be humble enough to take accountability for your actions, whether good or bad and be wise enough to make the necessary changes for both of you to grow and develop. Being arrogant is the craziest thing to me because most men, not all, tend to think that because they are a man that, they are intended to act like dogs instead of men because this is how they were raised, and trust me when I say this is a big piece of bull shit.

In my past relationship, it had gotten so bad that I mentally checked out, and every time I saw this man, he would irate me just by looking at him. All of a sudden little things started pissing me off with him, like him not helping me bring the groceries into the house when we both knew that he would be the first one at the damn table.

To all the good men out there, please continue to be good men because you don't want to do anything to disrupt your happy home, but this also goes for all the fantastic and good women out there to remember that it is okay not to be okay no matter how hard the world tries to make you see things there way.