When retirement comes

Some people say that retirement will bring some psychological problems, in fact, retirement does not necessarily bring psychological problems, but some people's retirement will bring psychological problems.

The people who are most likely to have psychological problems are, of course, those who have been in high positions of power in their jobs. They are probably used to a life of power, and they are used to a lifestyle where they stand in a position of power and are complimented and obeyed by others. When they retire and can no longer continue to live this life, then of course, they will feel very lost in their hearts, feeling as if they are depressed, to have psychological problems. This is a situation, that is, really do not like to retire.

There are also some people who may not necessarily say how high and powerful they were before, but they are just saying that they are not used to a very sudden and big change in their lifestyle. Once retired, then it seems that the whole life has changed ah. Before the morning to go to work, all day at work, and then back in the evening, now suddenly up in the morning do not need to go to work, as if there is no place to go ah. At first, he may feel, "Eh, it's quite leisurely," but soon he will feel, "Oh, it's boring," right? There's nothing to do.

And then there are some people whose relationships are basically at work, so once they retire, it seems that, ah, relationships are broken, that is, there are fewer channels of communication, there is no opportunity to communicate with others. In this case, he will also feel quite uncomfortable.

So it's not actually retirement that brings any psychological problems, but the change in lifestyle that brings some discomfort.

Since it is a change in lifestyle that brings discomfort, it is just a matter of finding ways to make this change in lifestyle happen gradually and not too suddenly. For example, before retirement, there is a period of time to let yourself a little bit of leisure, do not do so much work, it is a little bit like semi-retirement. Then after retirement, is it possible to find something for yourself to do, do not let yourself really do nothing.

So why do some retired people, he went to what the elderly college ah, learn a little of this what calligraphy ah, what painting ah, some of these things. In fact, it is to find something for themselves to do, before retirement and after retirement lifestyle, the contrast is not so big. In this way, the psychology of discomfort will be weaker.

Some of the changes that come with retirement, we are very helpless. For example, as I said earlier, some people feel that their power is gone after retirement, no one to obey him, this is quite helpless. Because once you have retired, why should others obey you? We need a kind of self-convincing, just say, "Hey ~ that situation in the past, that is brought about by the work, now this situation may be the norm."

I think one of the main points of finding a hobby is that once you find a hobby to do, you really have to commit to it, you really have to treat it as a thing to do. And don't say to yourself, "Gee, I'm just retired and bored, I'm looking for something to do, I'll do this, actually this doesn't interest me."

If you're not interested in it, it's amateurish to do it. But you do not love it, not good it, then you will still be bored, it will not really solve the problem. It is to find a hobby, must be committed, serious, take this hobby, really become something you love and good.

Another thing is to build new relationships, to make friends in retirement activities, and more importantly, to learn to get along better with your family. Because before you may not get along with your family, it's okay, you go out to work and don't see them. But now you have to get along with your family, you need to learn how to get along with him, this may be more difficult. But once done, it is also more able to improve the quality of your life after retirement.

Some retired people say, "Gee, I don't know how to do any of this? I don't know how to build relationships? How to improve the psychological level of interaction with family members? I don't know how to do any of this." If you don't know, there is another way to study psychology and participate in some psychological activities. In these activities you not only kill time, but also increase interpersonal relationships, and learn a lot of ways to get along with your family. Ahh~ what's not to love about it all at once?