27 years old, self-absorbed, usually indifferent, and do not like to greet people

A moment of impulse was encouraged by a friend who scolded the head nurse, now isolated, but also often ridiculed, now in addition to work and colleagues to say a few words about work, usually have not said a word, work is often worn small shoes, the mentality is not very good.

Perhaps usually has been too much negative information load, your face has been unable to squeeze extra smile which is understandable, and then in the work also accidentally will explode, very unhappy.

Encounter too many unfair things mentality is also a bit broken, so in addition to the work of communication, basically rare some happy,

These reactions are normal. If it affects your life, we may need to understand our emotional perception behind these reactions. Then understand ourselves better. Make appropriate adjustments to keep our lives calm and orderly

1、Impulsively being encouraged by a friend to scold the head nurse, being isolated, and

2, often ridiculed, and colleagues at work to say a few words on work matters

3, usually have not said a word, often worn small shoes at work.

Your reaction.

When you feel yourself getting tense, when you feel waves of anger, sadness, or guilt, think of it as you need to stop and

Ask yourself: I feel tension. What is it that is oppressive? What am I feeling angry about - "What am I offended by or needing to defend? Do I feel sadness or guilt ----- because I wish I was responsible for something myself?

"I have to do something about it now!" is a clear indicator that you are in reactive mode and that you may not be seeing the situation.

Before reacting, take a breath, allow your feelings to resolve, and then decide how you should subsequently get your way.

For example, if others form a gang and you are isolated, could you find an opportunity to find your best sister? to express yourself, or confide in. Or you can find a better way to break the pattern. For example, invite everyone to dinner. Explain publicly, and ask the leader to be present to reconcile accordingly.

Or focus on your longer-term goals, what kind of person do I want to be, and what does my career plan look like? I do my own thing, I don't let the little things around me affect my life.

When we're sensitive, we often interpret what's happening around us as being "all about" us - someone is grumpy and we want to know what we've done to make them mad.

But in reality, most people aren't thinking about us, they're fighting their own battles, focused on themselves - just like we are.

There is also a term in psychology called the "kick the cat effect": there are times when someone is angry with us or has some emotional expression that is not really about us, but actually because they are frustrated somewhere else. Then we just happen to meet him at that emotional breaking point, and thus he lets his emotions out unconsciously.

By shifting your attention away from your reactions and becoming curious about the other person's feelings, you will often find that their behavior has nothing to do with you and that you have many opportunities to interact with them, and are not just limited to the content of your work. When we have such an ability to listen to others, our relationships with them are also more intimate and friendly, and kind.

Sensitive people tend to see the problems of the world:

① When we see disharmony we feel pain

②When our friends are in a bad mood, we are not happy to follow them throughout the day

② Other people's faces are just other people's faces...

One of the easiest things we can do is to be careful what we expect from life, you expect to see good news naturally to be able to find excellent news. If for the time being, you don't have the situation you expect, then you also say, "I want to create the state I want, what can I do? Change your life with your actions.