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In fact, any good relationship is the result of mutual giving

People who have really moved their hearts, will never be indifferent

By Sal ToriPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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In fact, any good relationship is the result of mutual giving
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My friend Xiao Wang pursued a woman for a long time.

Daily are extra attentive to the woman in front of the face, the woman's colleagues he ingratiated himself, the woman's difficulties he helped, the woman's needs he met, even if the woman always remained unsavory attitude towards him, he was still full of enthusiasm.

On weekdays we call him out to get together, he always said he was busy working overtime, but as long as it is a woman's business, he did not say anything to rush over, for which we have also teased him to see sex and forget righteousness.

Later, the two got together.

We watched Xiao Wang pay so much for the pursuit of her, but also by default for the woman was finally touched, finally see Xiao Wang's good, which is a congratulatory thing, they laughed and said let Xiao Wang take "sister-in-law" out to meet.

But that day's meeting, the atmosphere is unusually low, raking several people are social cattle can not pull back the embarrassment, because the woman ate half of the meal, for some reason began to sulk, Xiao Wang began to coax her, but her face became more stinky, and finally directly shrugged off the face to go away.

The compartment door closed one after another.

A buddy looked in the direction of the door, as if thinking, "This has to be yellow ah."

I nodded with great approval, but the reason was not because of this unknown quarrel, but because the two people are not equal in a relationship.

Wang in this relationship is to pay more for that one, but also because he gave all he could to let the woman have the opportunity to bully, and once Wang felt tired, it also means that this relationship led by him to the end.

In life, like Wang, such examples are not many, especially in the youth.

To get together with the person you like, we do our best to give, thinking that their feelings even if they can not move heaven and earth, at least can also feel like people, but, in the end, touched only themselves.

No matter how good we are to that person, no matter how much we pay, their payment can not exchange for a little kindness and touch from the other party.

We thought we were wrong about the true meaning of love and started to adjust our mindset and change our strategy of pursuit, but sometimes, the failure was just because the other party never liked and never loved, not because we didn't give enough.

The people who have moved their hearts are not indifferent; the people who know how to manage their feelings are not enjoying themselves.

Any good relationship is the result of mutual giving.

At the crossroads of relationships, people often ask whether to choose a person they like to spend the rest of their lives with or choose a person who likes them to spend the rest of their lives with.

The answer naturally varies from person to person.

The fact is that, when you're young and vigorous, you'll be more than happy to choose someone you like and be brave enough to love them, even if the result is not what you want, at least in exchange for regret.

The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are looking for.

There is nothing wrong with such an idea, but we should pay attention to one issue, and that is: if it is not love that runs to each other, can two people give to each other?

Suppose you find someone who likes you to spend the rest of your life together, but if you only know how to enjoy each other's contribution, then what is the difference between your behavior and when you pursue a person who does not love you? When the other party accumulates enough disappointment, the relationship will still be broken.

So, relationship success or failure, a relationship good or bad, the key depends on the ability of both sides to run the relationship.

Any good relationship is the result of mutual pay.

A lot of people will always feel that the other party loves them, that no matter if they are right, or wrong, they should unconditionally let themselves, but they forget that the other party is also the same.

But they forget that the other side is also human, the other side of the heart will also be hurt, aggrieved for a long time, the number of concessions, disappointment will slowly increase, love will slowly disappear.

In fact, no matter who you get together with, if you want to get a good relationship, if you want to get a more long-lasting feelings, can not enjoy it, can not be bullying and pride, but should pay properly.

Life dozens of years, if you really miss a very loved one, then cherish the people around you, do not let the person who loves you also leave.

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Sal Tori

Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything one has learned in school.

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