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How To Overcome The Feeling Of Being Lost In Life

What to do when you feel lost?

By si bouzePublished 2 years ago 5 min read
How To Overcome The Feeling Of Being Lost In Life
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Feeling lost in life is one of the worst feelings in the world. It’s something that a person will likely experience at some point in their lives. Feeling lost can be caused by several factors, such as a lack of purpose, fulfillment, or direction. Right now, it may seem like life has no meaning. When this happens, though, remember that you need to go easy on yourself instead of blaming yourself for feeling lost. Fortunately, there are still ways you can cope with this challenging situation. In this article, we’ll be sharing some techniques to help you cope with feeling lost.

“One of the best times for figuring out who you are & what you really want out of life? Right after a break-up.” ― Mandy Hale

What does it mean when you ‘feel lost?’

“Feeling lost feels a lot like depression,” says Carolyn Ferreira, PsyD, a psychologist who helps people rebuild relationships and recover from trauma and addictions.

If you feel lost in life, you might feel unmotivated and uninterested in your hobbies, she says. You might feel “like life is meaningless.” You might no longer recognize yourself.

You also might feel like you’ve lost sight of the person you want to be, says Danielle Kepler, a licensed clinical professional counselor based in Chicago who specializes in treating adults with anxiety, depression, and life transitions, as well as couples with relationship issues.

It also can feel like you’ve always felt this lost, and you always will, Kepler says. “You might struggle to remember a time when you felt like your ‘old self.’” You may “see no way out of it.”

But know that there is a way out. There are many ways. Here are some things you can do when you feel lost:

1. Accept that it’s okay to feel lost

No matter how difficult the feeling of being lost might seem, realize that it’s not a feeling that will last forever. All suffering in life is temporary. There’s no exception. The more you try to avoid this feeling, the more you likely won’t be able to cope with it. An inability to cope happens because we often tend to extrapolate it, understand it, and, thus, magnify it as a result. People who try to figure out what’s causing the issue instead of letting the feeling often makes the situation worse themselves. Overanalyzing a fleeting feeling often makes the feeling last longer. It’s essential to recognize that sometimes you’re going to feel negative emotions. Instead of dwelling on them, allow yourself to experience the sentiment since it isn’t lasting anyways.

There’s nothing wrong with feeling lost, no matter how difficult it is to sit with your feelings. It would help if you also realized that sometimes feeling lost is the key to making necessary changes in your life to become better. You can always use this feeling to your advantage and reflect on your life. Everyone feels lost at some point in their lives, but it’s up to you how you’re going to cope with that feeling.

2. Realize you have more control than you think

You have control over your emotions and thoughts — not the other way around. You create your current reality, and you shape your life. Nobody else but you is in charge of how your life turns out, which means you will always have the upper hand. If there’s something in your life you aren’t happy about, the realization that you can turn your life around anytime should be enough to counter the feeling of being lost.

You need to ensure that you’re not developing a victim mindset. While trauma, loss, or a significant setback can make you feel unsteady and drastically change your life. The change can still turn out to be positive. People have lost spouses, children, and even a sense of safety. And many have learned to take their loss and create a beautiful life from it. If a child or spouse dies suddenly and traumatically, you might consider starting an organization to help others in a similar situation cope or prevent it from happening again. If you’ve experienced trauma, you can use the experience to rebuild yourself in a new way. Some people choose to do good deeds every day to help put their life on a better path. Allow yourself to get out of your way.

3. Choose healthy habits

This point might sound a little cliche, but your habits determine the outcome of your life. If you’re having unhealthy habits, such as constantly browsing mindlessly through social media posts, then you need to reevaluate your habits. Your habits can contribute to feeling lost in life, especially when the majority of your habits are unhealthy ones. Habits like social media consumption, it’s not entirely bad, but when it’s causing you to compare your life with everyone else’s, that’s when it becomes unhealthy. Like anything, moderation is key.

You can develop good habits at any time. Starting today, you can begin to do that social media detox, practice good deeds in every interaction, and choose a different way to respond to a partner or child, or anything else. When we’re feeling lost, it’s normal for there to be an increase in negative behavior. Still, by swapping that with a positive, compassionate, and kind attitude, we can begin to find the meaning that guides us back on track.

4. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness and feeling lost in life also serve as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. Telling yourself I feel lost in life, is a good first step as it can prompt action.

Because deep down, our strongest revelations don’t all stem from being around the constant company. It’s normally when we’re alone and in a place of relaxation.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

5. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation. And the reality is that we often bury negative emotions and deny their existence through indulgence in comforting emotions.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem or negative emotions at hand. See the event of what to do when you feel lost as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance you encounter in your life is designed to teach you and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes you’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, you simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for you to learn from, how you handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling lost in life, in this instance, although painful possibly, could be there to be teaching someone else.

In conclusion:

A sense of feeling lost in life can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with. However, these feelings can also catalyze change in your life if you acknowledge them and act.

Key message: Above anything, cherish your mental well-being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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