~ Frazzled ~

— I'm a Woman in Love with Being in Love —

As an observational 'Goof' form of entertainment, in an off-putting sort of way, I've been scrolling through a dating site. There are pictures and bio profiles of hundreds of women. For some reason, they always show themselves when they are young next to their current pictures. I always ask to date the younger one!

It's kind of sad that this site has so many women looking for a 'Lifetime' mate and so few men. Survival of the fittest lifelines of women vs men; also, narrowing the choices with many men switching sides, who are looking for other men.

Wrinkles no Tinkles: End~Game straight off the list. Most use their what they've Gots' as a calling card. Some of my favorites: 'Yoga Mat Pain-No Gain' ~ 'I'm not Worldly, I'm just Pretty.' ~ 'Beauty fades but Dumb Boobies last forever.' 'I'm looking for my Soulmate, I'm so tired of being alone, but just to put this out there - I don't date Schlubs.'

"So if you're seriously not interested in a woman that will 'Henpeck~Down' your 'Little' Schpikel for you - Then I 'Probably' just may not be the Woman for you!" Reading a 1/2 page of rules and regulations before any other pleasantries pushes me backwards - but that's probably just me. How can a person kick someone down the street with innuendos and expect them to jump into their lap? Focus on the positive 1st, you'll get out your what I don't like about you, negatives in due time.

Often couples wonder what one-another is thinking and nothing ever gets resolved: Wonder what he's thinking~wonder what she's thinking. With me, I always wonder what I did wrong!

— I could go on but none of you would want me to —

All it takes is reading the room communications and when to Face off: It often takes pinpoint timing for your instantly prudent analysis to come to fruition. "Perfect Women aren't Real and Real Women aren't Perfect, are you a Puurfect Catch?" ~ Why, yes I am! ~ I think y'all get the picture as I did.

— Following the Find ~ The Relationship —

Choose your Encounters: Life in the way? I'm often just stunned by all of the 'Choices' to Go along to Get along. Surely not an original concept, perhaps even overworked. But always personal 'standout' memories for most of us, that often just lay dormant, that we had chosen to have the 'Wisdom' to overlook for the better good.

There are so many occasions when your best action is no action. When I knew my wife had her mind set on a course of action, I learned that any points I state to illustrate my opinion would be a lost cause; a cause of irritation! I bit my tongue, and yes, my tongue was often raw from frequent biting. No sense in trying to dissuade her! Strike a chord with any of you? After so many years I certainly knew the wisdom of not being trapped by choosing obvious battle-trap-ploys! Let it go ~ Carry on to the high road!

There are everyday instances where it's easier to just skip-it rather than spin-up avoidable unnecessary angst. Would she have been more attentive if I had mentioned these things to her? Not a chance - no winners here: The less is more theory. Best way to close a deal, as a very practiced negotiator, my motto always was to talk about Lassie or the Weather once the Deals-a-Deal, nothing more.

As the title implies, our twists and turns in life often begin with what seem to be small choices to find a mate. Maybe that’s why young people once consulted with elders within a tribe or family when facing tough decisions. When much younger, it always looked like I could just choose an alternative if my initial choice didn’t work out. The cost of losing a few years of one's life seems like small potatoes when you are certain you will live forever.

Be selective of the problems, arguments and confrontations that you get involved in. Instead of putting up your dukes, save your time for the things that truly matter. Fight in-your-face battles or turn the other cheek.

Is it Worth it - Save your Strength: Life is like a Coin, Spend it any way you want, but once it's Gone it's Gone. Too Sugary~One Cube-Lump or Two?

Plato: 'Love is a serious mental disease'

*Good to be back as this Ai Breach has affected us all*

Jay Kantor, Chatswoth, California

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