You Don’t Have to Forgive: 5 Myths about Healing from Narcissistic Relationships

In the end, you were a victim of this relationship, but you managed to survive, that's the idea.

Healing after a narcissistic relationship is not always easy. In addition, there is no universal recipe for this. What helps someone to be healed will only hurt others and vice versa.

Gaslighting (a form of psychological violence), manipulations, and other things you encounter in treating narcissists are always determined by a certain situation, that is, they are unique.

Therefore, when it comes to returning to a normal life after a toxic relationship, it is best to go your own way.

I will talk about the most common myths about healing from narcissistic relationships. Even though many people think that these methods are very effective, when it comes to recovering again, not everyone helps.

5 myths about healing from narcissistic relationships:

1. You must forgive the narcissist

No, if you don't want it yourself. Of course, after a while, you will stop being angry with that person, but you should not force yourself to forgive your ex-partner for the way he acted with you.

You have the right to forgetting about past grievances, as you see fit. You can remember everything for a while if this is easier for you.

2. You have to get angry

No, you don't have to let him go, but you have to learn to control him. You still haven't had time to fully understand what happened to you, so there's nothing wrong with the emotions you experience.

Of course, it's important to recognize that the relationship with that person is in the past and start moving on, but don't pretend that you don't care if the anger is horrible inside. That person hurt you for a long time and intentionally, and this cannot be forgotten in one night.

After all, this is your life, and if you feel like you're mad with rage, that's it. Don't let that feeling swallow you, but don't pretend you don't feel that way.

3. You must believe that he will one day become a good person

You don't have to believe in him at all. You have the right to hope that he will receive what he deserves and that someone will hurt him as much as you do.

Being a generous person is, of course, a good thing, but not everyone can wish good to someone who has done so much harm to them. Everything you feel about your ex-partner is reality. And if you hate him, so be it.

4. I blame myself for not leaving him before

Many people believe that they are guilty of abuse and responsibility. That is, it could end these toxic relationships much earlier.

It's not your fault, because the narcissist has been cleverly manipulated to keep you in control. Of course, in the end, you found the strength to go, but for that, you had to go through hell.

Many people will try to advise you to take some of the blame so that you can let go of some of the pain, but this method does not help everyone. In the end, you were a victim in this relationship, but you were able to survive, and that's it.

5. To recover, you must be alone for some time

You have to be alone for a while to heal yourself and understand what you want and what you don't want in life and love, but don't hide from real life. If you meet someone you like, don't be afraid to try again.

Each pain has its healing period, and some people return to normal life much faster than others.

How did you get over your narcissistic former partner? I know it's not easy for you.