Without a Father at Home
This narrative is based on a genuine story.
A family, according to Biblical texts, consists of two people: the husband and the wife. The children are expected to be raised by both parents. Due to unforeseen circumstances, one parent may be obliged to take over the role of the other. This might occur as a result of the death of one parent, the release of children from wedlock, or a divorce that leads the two parents to remain estranged. However, the focus of this research is on the benefits and drawbacks of being a single mother.
According to Mackay, mothers who are left to care for their children find it difficult to fulfil their own obligations as well as that of a father (2). In homes where a father used to exist and was the sole breadwinner, the children would be distraught if he died suddenly, because the mother would require a long time to be able to perform her husband's responsibilities without feeling pressed.
When women were assigned to caring for children in previous decades, widows found themselves between a rock and a hard place since they were unable to work, resulting in great hardship for the entire family. Some chose to beg on the streets, while others relied on relatives to feed them.
According to study conducted by Australia's Senate Social Policy committee, poverty may lead to moral degradation in the family because a mother may resort to prostitution to support her family, and her daughters will follow in her footsteps (Rickard 1).
Although the mother may be inadvertently committing this sin, everything that is practised for a long time generates a culture that may be passed down to future generations. It's difficult to deal with such a scenario since there's no one to teach the kids discipline, so they're free to do anything they want because their mother doesn't have time.
Miller and Ridge contend that, aside from indiscipline, children will be deprived of fatherly affection. Furthermore, the mother will be tested while dealing with the sons since there are some aspects of males that she does not understand, and if the father were around, he would be able to counsel the boys with ease.
Most dads protect their children from immoral conduct by the power that is given to them; however, once a father has passed away, the mother will not be able to accomplish the same outcomes since moms are kind, and thus the children will not be scared of their mother. Because it is typical for girls of single moms to become pregnant at a young age, the absence of a male figure is reflected in the offspring of such homes. Because some of their sons drop out of school owing to a lack of funds, they may grow up to be seasoned bullies.
Daughters reared without a father, according to Bergman, may not recognize the importance of marriage as they grow up because they are unaware of the function of a father in their life.
This is due to the fact that even guys who date their moms are unconcerned about them since they are only dating these women to fulfil their sexual cravings. Because they don't feel linked to these women's daughters, some of these guys violate them. Furthermore, because dads are the ones who resist invaders, a household without a father is considered dangerous.
Despite the aforementioned issues, children of single moms tend to be active thinkers since they make decisions on their own the majority of the time, and some thrive in school as a result of their great desire to lift their families out of poverty. Unlike their contemporaries who are used to witnessing their parents quarrelling and fighting in their sight, children of single parents enjoy a calm environment free of quarrels.
More women are making a decent livelihood nowadays, and they are capable of meeting their children's requirements even if their husbands are not around. This means the kids will have everything they need, and because some of them are disciplinarians, they will make sure the kids are properly behaved.
As a result of the study, it is critical for parents to make plans for their children in every situation. Apart from the death of a single parent, husband and wife should endeavor to limit the causes of separation as much as humanly feasible. This is significant since the drawbacks of raising a child without a father exceed the benefits.