Why "playing Hard to Get" Actually Works (And When It Doesn't)

are you curious about whether playing hard to get Works in relationships and if so when does it not you might have heard that Traders sometimes intentionally lessen the supply of goods to create value it produces high demand but less Supply this strategy increases the price of their products and their profit increases can lovers also apply the same approach to get high value from the person they want or is it just a myth in this video we will see in what situations this strategy Works in romantic relationships and explore cases where it fails number 10. thrill of Chase when you are always available to someone and want to do everything with them they can feel claustrophobic they might perceive you as clingy and try to avoid you it's natural for people to distance themselves when someone's presence becomes bothersome in their everyday lives however if you take the opposite approach and become unavailable most of the time focusing on your hobbies and work the other person might become more interested in you when you have your own life Others May see you as an exciting and attractive person they may experience a thrill chasing you for example if you are casually dating someone for a few weeks you can play hard to get and capture that person's attention by occasionally limiting your availability this can be done by taking longer to respond to their messages and calls and by reducing the frequency of conversations and hangouts these strategies will create mystery and curiosity in your partner's mind prompting them to put in extra effort to gain your attention and time it will also strengthen your attachment because they will naturally wonder and think about you number nine you and your partner are releasing more dopamine you and your partner experience increased dopamine levels when you play hard their efforts to win you over such as frequent calls quick message replies and genuine interest in your well-being contribute to your happiness throughout the day it's natural to feel Joy when your favorite person makes an effort and each message from them widens your smile additionally when you occasionally respond to their messages it triggers a release of dopamine in them as their creativity and efforts are rewarded their hard work to impress you brings them happiness as well however the level of their dopamine release is influenced by your response and whether you appreciate their efforts or desire them to work harder ultimately you have the power to influence their dopamine control through your actions and choices number eight it attracts Risk Takers some people love to take risks when someone is not giving you attention investing your time and emotions is a risk because you never know if they will return it or not all your time and emotions can go in vain if the other person is less interested in you so the person chasing you even if you are playing hard is a thrill seeker he would chase you and make efforts to put extra time and energy into the unpredictable relationship if you love that kind of personality that is willing to take risks you are on the right path moreover when you love something from the bottom of your heart you love to take risks for example if you are willing to do a particular job and the job requirement is to pass a competitive exam that takes too much effort one year of time and money you are in love with the job and willing to work hard to get it in the meantime your friends and family ask you not to do it because you will waste your one year preparation time money and hard work if you cannot pass this exam but if the job really means something to you you will take the risk and work hard suppose we apply the same scenario to a person if someone is really willing to win you over they will put in extra effort and hard work and take the risk number seven it would lead to a serious relationship when someone makes an effort for you and does creative things for a long time they are showing seriousness about the relationship when you work hard to stay with someone for long periods of time they may Stay or Leave people who left you during that period of time had temporary feelings that changed when someone else came into their life or when things got tougher the best thing about playing hard to get someone is that you can judge how far a person can go for you if you have time it can be useful and Powerful for example you may give yourself four years to marry someone or you may have one year until you get ready for a serious relationship in which you can invest yourself if you are still in this period of life and you have a crush on someone and you are dating them casually without thinking about being serious you can test them by playing hard if they can make an effort within that time limit they are very serious and right for a long-term relationship or as a life partner one thing to notice here is when you talk to them about having a serious relationship or marriage they shouldn't make any excuses because most people make lame excuses like they do not have financial means their parents will not agree or they have yet to study these types of people are not serious about you number six it boosts your confidence when you know that someone likes you it soothes your self-esteem and you become more confident when you make yourself less available to the other person and limit your efforts the other person tries with his maximum energy if you also like that person it triggers that positive energy in you all of these Positive Vibes will make you feel good for example if you see a rose bouquet placed at your office in the early morning with a name tag it can automatically boost your energy and mood this energy and mood will keep you confident throughout the day the feeling of getting liked by someone gives a sense of acceptance and everybody likes it a sense of acceptance gives you confidence and self-assurance your self-confidence should not be dependent on outside confirmation however if you get it from outside it's good to take an extra kick of confidence number five allows you to maintain personal boundaries most of us do not jump into a serious relationship immediately because of personal boundaries you may have set these boundaries yourself or you may have strict parents some people set these boundaries because they are afraid to hurt themselves this fear may arise because of past experiences or for any other reason if you are not ready for a relationship yet and are thinking about someone who is also interested in you it's good to play hard to get them because it will allow you to take a breath however you must think about the person beforehand don't use any of these tricks to play with somebody's emotions number four you can have freedom and personal growth when you are in a serious relationship you cannot focus on your dreams and personal growth it is because in a committed relationship you mostly prioritize and focus on the activities of your partner on the other hand playing hard to get someone allows you to have time for personal growth and pursuing your dream when you know that someone is chasing you behind your back you come out stronger and focus on your goals you are not in a committed relationship and that gives you the freedom to be independent for example you win a scholarship from a university and have to move to a new city you can do it without seeking any permissions or confirmations it makes you independent yet attractive you save plenty of time by not giving attention to another person and only enjoying and pursuing your dreams number three challenge you to be on your toes all the time playing hard to get with someone is not only beneficial for your personal development but it also challenges you to improve yourself when someone is consistently chasing you and you like them too you want to become more desirable and that challenges you to watch yourself for example if you have a crush on a co-worker you may desire to increase your efficiency at work on a daily basis you might actively participate in office activities to be prominent besides you may take better care of your physical appearance to appear more attractive mostly when you're on your own you can become lazy and procrastinate on personal goals however when someone is always watching you it creates a challenge and acts as motivation as a result you challenge yourself each day not only to improve your appearance but also to work diligently in the office number two you have the upper hand no one can play with your feelings when you play hard to get with someone this strategy works because it allows you to handle the relationship it lets lets you leave or stay in the relationship you are not making any promises to the other person so you are free to make your own decisions normally when you commit to someone and tell everybody in your circle about your relationship it causes social pressure on you to hold a relationship playing hard gives you the upper hand and you can take your relationship wherever you want number one it's easy relationships are difficult especially if they are toxic you become tired of fulfilling the other person's expectations it becomes harder when you are unsure about the relationship you are doubtful whether the other person is serious or not with this uncertainty it's hard to invest your precious time and make efforts to maintain the relationship on the other hand when you are working hard to get someone your life becomes easier and you do not have to force yourself to safeguard a relationship you also have to not worry about what the other person is doing behind your back or if they are serious or not you just have to keep going at your own pace and work on yourself you can start a serious relationship at any point when you feel ready to trust the other person.