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What you can do to make him fall in love with you

by Sahina Bano 9 months ago in dating
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What you can do to make him fall in love with you
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True love at first sight is rarely rekindled. Everything is determined instantaneously here - is it possible to continue, or has everything already finished, with no time to begin? So prepare for this meeting and don't squander your time.

Making a guy believe he is getting to know you on his own initiative - possibly, argues renowned German psychiatrist Dr. Herbert Mück. All you have to do is give it a go. Learn to regulate the messages your body has been sending subconsciously up to this point.

Remember that individuals, on the whole, are seeking for a second half who will resemble them in many respects (for example, share similar values, worldview), but will also be completely autonomous. So a new acquaintance's slogan should be "A lot in common, but not the same."

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People, after all, are pragmatic creatures. Before we discuss any important sentiments or connections, virtually all of us instantly ask ourselves, "Why do I need this relationship?" "What beneficial items will I receive?" As a result, it is advantageous if you have the perception that your organisation has a unique value.

The next important point is that we feel especially good next to people who value us, so we "stroke" our own ego. This knowledge can also be used.

Love cannot be found "in the wrong place," or the "wrong" candidate cannot be chosen.

But you can go down the wrong path and miss your chance.

Be stylish

Be ready for a new love to appear on the horizon, even outwardly. It doesn't matter what you do, the main thing in clothes is style. Even if you are just going to paint a fence in the country or walk a dog in the park at six in the morning.

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Listen to your feelings

Be prepared that this can happen at any moment, listen to your feelings. Chances very rarely come into our lives with fanfare and drumming. Program yourself to immediately recognize the right situation.

Show your interest

Don't forget about eye contact. It is not for nothing that love at first sight is called love at first sight, and not at first touch or smell. This, of course, also happens, but much less often. If you are not indifferent to the interlocutor, then eye contact should be up to 70% of the conversation time (during an average conversation, we look at the interlocutor 60% of the time). So keep your eyes open! If you look away, this is a signal that interest has been lost.

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Take the initiative

The time of women waiting to be chosen is over. If someone seems attractive to you, it is better not to sit back and then not sigh that the moment is missing. It is not at all necessary to declare sympathy out loud, you can start with a softer technique: smile openly, hold your gaze, run a hand through your own hair, at the moment when he looks at you. If a man reacts to these signs, then, as a rule, later he is sure that he himself took the first step.

Don't stop there

Develop relationships. Do not procrastinate with a smile, a nod of the head, or a suitable retort to reinforce the sympathy that has begun. At least nod to show your agreement. In the end, adjust to your partner. Imagine that you are his reflection: do the same as him. For example, grab a glass at the same instant as it.

Listen carefully

Try to isolate the lines of someone you liked from the general conversation in order to analyze what topic might be of interest to him, and strike up a conversation with him on this topic.

Make sure he is interested in you

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Pay attention to more than just his lines. Check to see if he is averting his bored gaze? If his pupils are dilated, he is probably wondering if they are constricted, then vice versa. What is the expression on his face? What happens to his hands: are they crossed or not?

Don't hide your little weaknesses

The one who betrays his little weaknesses signals that he is ready to move on to a new stage of communication, closer. Try to build trust. But do not go too far so that the interlocutor does not think "if she is now discussing such topics, what will happen next !?"

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Don't be afraid to sound too approachable

Research has not confirmed that the notion that women who seem inaccessible are valued more highly is true. What if you get a date? It is not necessary to filter through clenched teeth, "Okay, so be it, persuaded." It would be much more correct to say "yes", but at the same time make it clear that if someone else was in the place of the gentleman, you would not agree to a date so quickly.

Make your first date exciting

Research has shown that we find other people more sexually attractive when we are aroused. Use this knowledge and leave a relaxing, even the most romantic dinner "for later". Start your date with something more "driving". Excitement and emotion can be a catalyst for falling in love.


About the author

Sahina Bano

Freelance Blogger and Content Writer. I owe a website and write for my clients.

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