What has Social Media done to Dating?

Are we truly satisfied with the attention of one person? Very hard question to answer with the advancements of social media putting the access of millions in the palm of our hand. Unfortunately, the dating options has extended well beyond the limits of your local town, state or country for that matter. It all depends on how wide you want to explore and social media has bridged that gap for you and I. Is that a blessing or a curse? Well, that all depends on how you want to explore your options and what you are willing to put up with. I truly think that social media has inserted a type of laziness and "don't care" attitude in us all when it comes to dating.

Too many options, presents too many problems! Have you ever wonder why you may have some trouble selecting a vehicle or a home sometimes? There are far too many options for you and I to explore and that is spreading us thin and we fail to realize this before our very eyes. Yes, the concept of exploring options can be good to some extent, but it hinders our ability to focus on what is right in front of us. This luxury creates a laziness inside of us, and we see the ease to jump from one person to the next. It is very much like the person crossing the street and taking a "selfie" in the middle of the crosswalk while not paying attention to their surroundings. This is the dangerous games we play with our emotions and we set ourselves up for failure. Social Media places us in a world that can be far from what is really right in front of us, and this causes us to fall for false perceptions that are far from obtainable.

The positive needs of social media are there for other aspects of our lives, but we need to separate them from our dating lives. Most people present their "good" side of life and sometimes, that "good" life can be a little too far-fetched. This can set up some possible disappointment and resentment can settle as the part of the process, leaving a sour taste for dating. This common flaw with Social Media Dating also is known as the "Flex Syndrome". You see this person in different locations, driving different cars, going out to eat in nice restaurants and living the life of a movie start. Then with our humble surroundings, we confuse it with everyday life when only the top one percent lives like this. It is very much like competing with something that is not really there. Yes, taking trips and eating out at nice places are within reach, but is it a part of your everyday life is the question you need to ask when you are at awe from these Social Media pages that only show you this side of life. So when our reality is different from Social Media, the disappointment sets in and we are off to the next person.

Unfortunately, the "Flex Syndrome" doesn't stop with the material goods! There are creative photoshop tools and what appears to be on Social Media, is not always the same in real life. I think the picture is painted in this one and there is no need to present any other negative facts about Social Media Dating. For the record, I'm not against Social Media Dating, I know the limitations and boundaries I have to exercise when entertaining Social Media Dating. Having said that and knowing the possible traps that could happen, I really think its better to test drive a car at local lot instead of spending extra time and emotions on something that may never live up to promise. The choice is yours to swipe, or be swiped.