Wait For The Guy Who Does This
Where the butterflies end, and the real test begins.
Butterflies: Check. Mutual attraction: Check. It's easy to fall for him when you first discover the spark between the two of you, but before you get in over your head, ask yourself if he does these things.
He really sees you.
He sees what sets you apart from everyone else, and appreciates the little things that make you who you are. It's in the way that he looks at you when your face lights up when you talk about your passions. He isn't just physically attracted to you; He's attracted to what makes you you.
He compliments you.
Whether you're in leggings or an evening gown, he tells you that you're beautiful, and notices when you put in extra time getting ready for an event or a night out.
He encourages you.
He acknowledges when you're putting in hard work, and supports you when you need a pick-me-up. He makes you want to be the best version of you that you can possibly be.
He does the little things.
Whether it's a "good morning" text, unexpected flowers, or doing something nice for you without you asking, he goes out of his way to do even the littlest things to show you that he's thinking of you.
He's proud to be with you.
As he should be. There is no "hiding" your relationship on social media (unless this is something the two of you have agreed to), or making it appear to others that he's still single. Don't fall for the guy who won't publicly acknowledge your relationship -- You don't know what else he may be hiding.
He's honest about your relationship.
He introduces you to his friends, and (when the time is right) his family. There is no secrecy surrounding your relationship, and he isn't lying to anyone when the two of you are together. There are no excuses for this behavior. I repeat, none.
He invites you into his world...
He opens up to you about his dreams, his plans for the future, and invites you to share in his hobbies.
...and he wants to be a part of yours.
He takes interest in what drives you, or at least supports you in what makes you happy. He doesn't put you down or discourage you from pursuing what you love.
Whether you had a bad day, work is driving you crazy, or you just need to talk through a problem, he makes the time for you.
He kisses your forehead.
Yes, these guys still exist.
He captivates you.
In addition to being physically attracted to him, you know that he has the qualities that you're looking for in a longterm relationship. He makes you want to delete the dating apps from your phone, and even Ryan Gosling walking by wouldn't turn your head (okay, so maybe that's the exception).
He isn't in a hurry.
Love is a marathon, not a sprint. He isn't rushing to say "I love you's," or going through the motions just for the sake of being in a relationship. He may have waited to ask you out, and he may wait to go for the first kiss.
Good things take time, and the best moments are worth the wait.