Verbal Violence, a Form of Relieving Stress?

The violence of any kind is ultimately nothing more than a strong sense of helplessness and overwhelm by our affections, which intense moments we find no other solution to deal with than through verbal abuse or more, through physical abuse.

But man can think of his feelings, to verbalize them later. All this gives it authenticity, uniqueness among living beings.

Verbal violence is unfortunately not a therapeutic form, although it can shape such an impression. The moment we swear and manifest ourselves verbally violently, we show that the tension is so great inside us that we can no longer verbalize it, we can no longer process it at the level of thinking and express it in words.

Our emotions find no other form of expression and understanding than through swearing, which does not say, in itself, anything.

Return to the archaic

Verbal violence is anger, an upset, a frustration, a maximum tension that sends to the most archaic form of the human in real, as archaic as the blows, physical violence.

This is how we express this tension, which practically exceeds us, in such moments when we no longer have words to express what bothers us, what hurts us, upsets us, and why. We are in a very primary stage, whatever form of violence we choose, a level of primary enough that it does not allow us to truly unload.

False releases

In the first phase, we can talk about a download, but we are the victims of a false download, for now. The aggression that we cannot put in a form, to contain it inside, to understand its source, we express it on a verbal level, but incomplete and useless.

We are not dealing with a mentalized verbal, but with a slightly more evolved form of preverbal manifestations. Preverbal manifestations are those of physical violence either on others or on ourselves, etc. We can say, lightly, that swearing is hierarchically superior to the scale of preverbal manifestations.

Manifestations of natural aggression

Swearing is natural because it starts with us, our aggression. But they also have an acquired, learned character, through the way we saw in the adults around us that they can be "discharged" from internal tensions and so on.

If the family that offered us, models, in the first years of life, the group of friends later, have predominantly, as a form of manifestation of verbal violence aggression, then automatically, by taking over and we learn to "unload" violently verbally without, without really relaxing.

Verbal violence is not just about swearing. This is the maximum form. We can be just as verbally aggressive by teasing or using humor. Sometimes these forms are much more painfully received than forms of physical violence.

Not inhibition, understanding

We cannot speak of choice when using swearing, they manifest instinctively. It is not ideal to inhibit these impulses but to understand their cause, what they mean, what is the dissatisfaction that triggers these reactions.

In the conditions in which we understand to whom or to which situation the verbal aggression is directed, respectively the anger and the aggressiveness, then automatically we can choose our words in a more balanced and implicitly more efficient way.

Expression of revolt, attempt to differentiate

Common sense, moral, ethical norms come and go a long way because swearing is sometimes a form of revolt, an expression of unresolved conflicts. We revolt, for example, in front of parents we have never heard swear at.

On the other hand, swearing can have a liberating effect if we do not free ourselves from something but free ourselves from everything that is imposed on us from outside.

Certain rules of common sense that are imposed on us can trigger our need to free ourselves in this way, to assert our own identity, to emphasize the difference between what we are and what we are required to be.