Why Would Anyone Choose to Be a Surrogate Mother?

Thus, a woman can sign a legal contract that "rents" her uterus to carry the child of a woman unable to conceive - either infertile or facing serious medical problems that stop her from completing the pregnancy.

The surrogate mother can also be the biological mother of the child - the natural father donates sperm, and the child is conceived by artificial insemination, but it can often be only the carrier of the child, so it does not transmit its genetic material, but only "feeds" it. uterus - in this case, the baby is conceived by in vitro fertilization.

This advanced procedure involves culturing an embryo made up of the sperm and eggs of the natural parents and implanting this embryo in the carrier mother.

Couples who can legally turn to a surrogate mother are those who prove that they have real fertility problems, certain genetic diseases of the mother, or various diseases that would make it impossible to complete a pregnancy: uterine diseases, polycystic ovaries, medical treatments that would affect pregnancy - such as chemotherapy.

When a couple has tried and other methods of conception have failed (fertility treatments, artificial insemination, in vitro fertilization), partners may decide to turn to a surrogate mother - their only chance to have their child.

But this process - the use of a surrogate mother, a pregnant mother, but who is not a natural mother - has provoked various controversies, doubts, even criticisms. Even though it is the only real and effective solution for two partners who face infertility to have a child, many dispute the morality of this practice.

Therefore, before having the legal right to call a surrogate mother, the inability to procreate must be medically proven by a series of tests, at least after one year of fertility treatments.

First of all, if the surrogate mother feeds the fetus with her blood, protects it for 12 months, what kind of relationship will this have with the newborn baby? Is it moral and human that, by law, the surrogate mother loses all rights over the child once born, after so long cared for and sheltered?

Is it taken into account that the surrogate mother may develop feelings of attachment to the little being in her? She even loses her right to visit her child, to know how she lives, how she grows up, how she manages in life. The surrogate mother is legally reduced to product status, she practically rents her body as a commodity, and when she delivers the final product, she loses all utility!

There was also talk of the relationship between mother and child: if she did not carry him in her womb (and in some cases did not even contribute to the genetic dowry) she will have an equally natural, intimate, close relationship with this child. will she look at him as a stranger? But these criticisms do not make sense - given that the same can be said of the adoptive mother.

Why does someone choose to be a surrogate mother?

Regarding the humanity and morality of this process, many wonder why they accept women to carry pregnancies for other couples. Apart from the situation in which the woman is either a relative or a close friend of the couple and therefore her motivation is to help them to have their child and therefore to do good, the decision to become a surrogate mother has nothing moral in it. 

Women who accept this do it out of a need for money - because it pays very well.

Although some legislation requires that the contract does not pay, but only provides living conditions to the surrogate mother, the reality is different and these mothers can make good money from an infertile couple. Thus, the mother rents her body for a certain period due to financial needs, and the couple takes advantage of the precarious condition of this woman. In these cases, morality is far away, and the conception of the child is seen as a business…

True immorality in this matter

The severe criticism for the practice of using a surrogate mother, however, arises from a truly immoral situation: that of rich or famous women who, unwilling to go through all the unpleasant changes caused by pregnancy and unwilling to alter their beauty, secretly hire a surrogate mother. 

Thus, it was rumored about multiple cases in which celebrities or rich women announced that they were pregnant, they wore a fake belly under the dress during the whole "pregnancy", and during all this time another extremely well-paid woman and just as well hidden from the eyes of the world she carried the pregnancy.

Thus, the world was able to admire how beautiful and slim singer X or actress Z remains, even though she is in her ninth month of pregnancy. silhouette… What would be their problem - if there were no negative example given to young women around the world, who began to believe that it is normal not to gain weight during pregnancy!

Because of these examples given by immoral and stupid celebrities, young pregnant women are subjected to torture, drastic diets during pregnancy, diets that affect not only their health but also that of the child…

The latest case of this kind is that of singer Beyonce - who announced in August, during a concert, that she is pregnant and is said to be wearing a fake belly. Where is the morality of such women, who, though perfectly capable of conceiving a child, prefer not to be tormented and not to spoil their so dearly paid beauty?

Where is the morality of the surrogate mother, who keeps the secret being paid with hard money? And where is the morality of the doctors who assist the surrogate mother, who in turn keeps the secret?