Those who do not want to trouble others in life

In daily life, there is a kind of people who are always afraid to give others trouble, in their minds, they feel that they should do things themselves, even if it is a big thing to force themselves to carry down.

Once they ask for help from others, they will fall into the emotions of guilt and embarrassment, feeling that this is a debt of gratitude that will need to be paid back one day.

They also worry that the person helping them will not be too much trouble. In fact, from a psychological point of view, this kind of person belongs to the mother of God personality.

This type of person tends to be more introverted, to the outside world, even if they have their unique views, but also will not easily say, them because they are afraid of causing others to resent them. They habitually deny themselves and do not put their emotions first.

In addition, their self-esteem is very strong. The reason why they don't want to bother others is that they are afraid that others will reject their requests for help. In the eyes of such people, rejection is very hurtful, and when they are rejected, they will indulge in negative emotions that they cannot extricate themselves from.

This repressed embarrassment, anger, and shame in the bottom of the heart will all rise to the surface.

Their self-regulation ability is relatively poor, it is difficult to get relief through self-soothing when they are at an emotional low.

These people will only choose to hide these negative emotions deep in their hearts, never to outsiders. Because they are afraid of not being understood, but also afraid of ridicule and ridicule. They always do things habitually prepared for the worst, their inner walls firmly sealed, they can not get out, but also let others in, to protect themselves.

Flaws

People with Madonna's personality are usually silent and always the silent ones in the group.

They don't like to show themselves, but they can't shake off the perceptions of others. They want to have close relationships with others, but they have a hard time finding things to talk about and opening up in the process of conversation.

To maintain this "intimate relationship", they will even be overly helpful to others, without considering their own ability to do so, they will accept the requests of others. Even if they can't do it, they are too embarrassed to refuse, thus turning themselves into a "hypocritical" person.

This will also make others feel unhappy, which may lead to the deterioration of the relationship. Blind obedience will make others think that you are a "soft touch" and can be squeezed by others.

Dangerousness

The Madonna personality type is easily shy and has an inferiority complex, and is not confident in herself. They always think they are inferior to others, so they care more about the comments and opinions of the outside world and lack subjective knowledge of themselves.

When they face strangers, they will feel very confined and want to leave early; when they encounter big trouble, their ability can not be completed, and they are also reluctant to seek help from others; even if someone is kind to help, they will flatly refuse.

But in these self-repressed emotions for too long, there will always be the day that can not be bear.

At that time, they will only think that they are useless, and even angry at others, resenting each other why they do not insist on helping themselves, very contradictory.

Some psychologists have suggested that submissive personalities are likely to transform into aggressive personalities under the stimulation of the external environment, and some will even engage in anti-social and radical behavior.

People who were originally honest, weak, and silent can easily be transformed into murderers or thugs in a flash.

At the same time, in psychology, it is believed that if a person suppresses his emotions for a long time, he is likely to suffer from depression.

Like the popular Korean actress, Shirley Choi, who passed away at a young age, the public can't help but pay attention to the seriousness of depression. Some people seem to be optimistic and cheerful, but they likely plan to leave the world when they are alone.

Even if they dare to talk to people around them, they may be perceived as pretentious.

Over time, to prevent themselves from being hurt again, they will close themselves off, but such repressed emotions are likely to lead to serious consequences.

How can you make a difference?

Don't be afraid to ask for help. What you think is difficult may not be worth it in the eyes of others.

Asking for help won't make your relationship worse, but sometimes it will make your relationship better. There's no need to worry about things that haven't happened yet.

The first step to making a change is always very difficult, but if you dare to take this step, it is a great success.

At that point, everything becomes logical, asking for help is not so difficult, and your mind is no longer torn.

By asking for help, you can make your stress and your emotions lessened, which is more conducive to the development of one's mental health.