The Difference Between Being Cocky and Confident

If I see one more “Bro” post about being an “Alpha Male”, I’m going to lose my shit. It would be laughable if it wasn’t so damned ignorant. And they don’t even realize it.

“Alpha Male”. That has to be the most ignorant, dumbass term that’s been trending lately. I see posts all over Twitter and Facebook about what Alpha Males are supposedly all about. I think men say this to impress other men more than women.

This man is not impressed.

The term Alpha Male is cocky as fuck. It implies that by being loud, rude, aggressive, and generally irritating to all people, they are superior men. The only other ones who seem to encourage this ignorant train of thought are other self-proclaimed Alpha Males.

Perhaps they have a club. I wonder if they wear Members-Only jackets? Doubtful. I bet their dress code is more of a True Religion Jeans paired with a Tapout shirt type of thing. This of course is during casual get-togethers and meet-ups with other Alpha Males. Rarely are there women involved.

Later in the evening, it’s more of a dark, charcoal suit type of vibe. You have to suit up when you’re headed to clubs and bars in pursuit of women. Pussy doesn’t just slay itself, at least in Chad’s mind. You have to look the part to get the best ass.

Never mind that you’re a used car salesman, or in middle management for an insurance company. Alpha Males don’t care to be reminded about their lackluster financial statuses. It’s all about the image you’re projecting, as an Alpha Male.

So what if your new Mercedes costs more than your rent? That’s easily affordable if you live in Mom’s basement. Hey, it’s only temporary, right? It has its own outside entrance. That’s how big ballers do it, right?

And perhaps some Alpha Males actually do make a lot of money. Maybe they have their own bachelor pad, fancy toys, and a shitload of artillery in their panic rooms. That’s got to be a turn-on, right Ladies? Doing it on a pile of ammunition.

The idea of men being this pretentious and cocky should be a turn-off for any woman who has the unfortunate experience of talking to an Alpha Male. Though Alpha Males would lead you to believe differently, women tend to want to be treated with kindness, respect, and affection.

She’s not looking for some douche who will talk down to her, order her food without asking what she’d like, and expects to be repaid in sex after the date is over. Remember that song by Shania Twain, That Don’t Impress Me Much. No? Give it a listen, Brock. Take some notes on it. There will be a test later.

Shania isn’t impressed, nor am I. Most women are not impressed by cocky douchebags.

What Shania knows as well as many other mature women is this: There’s a difference between being cocky, shallow, and rude, and being confident, respectful, and kind. A huge difference.

Self-proclaimed Alpha Males don’t get it. They think that by portraying an image of cockiness, having attitude, and even sometimes, success, they are putting out a vibe that is irresistible to women. Their entitlement, rudeness, and overcompensation in most areas make them very unappealing to date.

People of substance know that these negative traits do not a man make. Being superficial, braggadocious, and generally irritating will never be appealing to a woman who finds this type of behavior boorish and childish. She doesn’t want to be your little trophy wife. She’d rather be a partner, an equal.

The best couples are the ones who are kind to each other. They think of each other’s feelings before all else. They stand up for each other, and defend each other, yet aren’t jealous and threatened by other people outside of their relationship. They are confident and trusting in the person they are with.

They are secure people. They know what they bring to the table and own it without being cocky and rude. You can tell a lot about a man by how he treats people. And not only by how he treats the woman he’s with but also by how he carries himself.

He’s pleasant to the waitstaff in restaurants. He’s also a good tipper. He’s kind to small children. He loves animals. He isn’t worried about a dog jumping up to greet him and getting hair on his suit.

He is quick to laugh and slow to brag. He listens as much or more than he speaks. And when he does speak, he adds to the character of the room he’s in. He isn’t seeking to be the center of attention.

He elevates the woman in his life, encourages her goals and dreams, and isn’t threatened by anything she does to educate herself, grow, and achieve. By being excellent to her in all aspects of life, he makes her want to be by his side and give him the same, wonderful treatment.

And he NEVER refers to himself as an Alpha Male to impress other wanna-be men. Write that one down, Fellas. &:^)