The child shows three signs

We often receive messages from parents in the background.

One of the topics repeatedly mentioned is "What if my child has low self-esteem?"

As parents, we naturally want our children to live a confident, sunny,d happy life, and give them a good childhood. Once we find that our children have low self-esteem, parents always think that they are not doing enough.

T famous psychologist Adler suggested that low self-esteem is a universal human emotional feeling, which originates from a sense of helplessness in early childhood and is aggravated later by various psychological, physical or social, realities that hinder it. he

Therefore, we should understand that low self-esteem is quite common, do not worry too much, moderate low self-esteem but help to stimulate the internal drive of people, so that people motivated, but if low self-esteem to the bone, often have to be more vigilant, it may affect the normal life of children and future development.

The child has the following signs, indicating that he has low self-esteem in his bones

1. Comfortable with the status quo and afraid of change

Maintaining curiosity and curiosity is a prerequisite for a person's development.

C, they are full of curiosity about this relatively new society, coupled with the fact that children are by nature double-minded, so parents can always find that their children always seem to be challenging new things and exploring their surroundings. c hildren

However, s to be more conservative and tend to do only what they are familiar with from a young age, not daring to venture into new areas, always worried that they are not capable enough to cope with new things, and do not like to trouble others.s children see more

If you find children with this sign, it is largely because they are overly capable of self-awareness, have a more inferior and sensitive personality, and believe that their ego is too weak to withstand the consequences that would result from c. t changeshe

They shrink themselves i a thick defensive shell, stay in the so-called "comfort zone", afraid to come out, afraid of being hurt. intonto

2, emotionally sensitive, can not correctly view the praise and criticism of others

A child with low self-esteem, often accompanied by l self-esteem personality, no matter what happens, will always think the worst, resulting in emotional impact, being pessimistic, f, anxious about the worl,d and other negative emotions wrapped up. frustrations

More critically, these children's minds and extremely sensitive, they are always used to self-denial, the perception of self is not objective enough, t they can not complete this task, the result will lead to things may develop in a bad direction.nd hink

Time and time again, the child will be convinced that they are not good enough, and then it is difficult to correctly view the criticism and praise of others.

Perhaps the parents are just criticizing them for not completing the task well, but children with low self-esteem think that their parents deny t as a person, and when receiving compliments from their parents, children also feel a kind of mockery in disguise and become unusually emotionally devastated.hem

3, avoid socialization, difficult to get along with people

There is a class of children, from childhood a too introverted shy, afraid of s e, afraid of strangers, they have extremely low self-esteem inside, afraid to make friends with people because lways feel that they do not deserve.re environmentstrange

The first thing you need to do is to get a good feeling for the opposite sex, but you don't dare to take that step out of your heart and bravely pursue or respond to each other, and once you find out that the other person is close, you can't help but retreat.

Even if it is clear that the heart has a good feeling, obviously also w to fall in love, but still will refuse the other party's further approach. ants

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The following types of families of origin are likely to raise children with low self-esteem

The Swiss psychologist Jung proposed that a person's character is mostly formed in childhood, and he may need to spend his life trying to close the character defects.

A person's environment of origin, to a large extent, determines his future character undertones. The following types of families of origin, easy to raise children with low self-esteem.

1, like to order, control the child's family of origin

In the name of parents, to control the l of children, treat them as their ownendages, with the tone of command to talk to children, trying to make each other sincere. Ives

This type of education is very cold so that children feel suffocated, n trusted by their parents, long-term, they are deprived of their sense of self, wrapped in a sense of inferiority and powerlessness, and may even form a "pleasing personality".nd ot

2, like to yell at the child's family of origin

The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are doing.

This mood can be understood, but I do not know if you have thought about it, you are angry, the body comes with the "black energy", wis easy to transfer to the children, so that their emotions also become aggressive.hich

A part of s children are tamed, later become inferior and sensitive, led away by the negative emotions of their parents; another part may be provoked, become rebellious and misbehaving, al to be the same as t tantrum. omend arent'searnnd firstheir

3, indifferent feelings of the family of origin

In type of family of origin, the feeling is "cold", not only the relationship between husband and wife or parent-child relationship, r distant, do not communicate with each other, as if the most familiar strangers.n thiseticularly

Everyone in childhood has longed for unconditional love from parents, your praise and support is the source of their sense of security and self-confidence, if parents never give their children this feeling of love, often also hit their self-confidence, f that they are not perfect enough, s that they do not get parental care. eeling

Read more: How to build your child's self-confidence?

To share with you ten useful tips.

1、Take your child's request seriously and treat him as an independent person.

2, give your child the opportunity and right to choose, c more with your child their ideas.a c teommunicatend

3, learn to show appropriate weakess so that children feel that they are needed by their parents.

4, do not compare your child with other children, learn to see the child's shining point.

5, encourage children to play more with children of the same age, more friends can help build self-confidence.

6、When children encounter difficulties, encourage them to solve problems bravely and praise their courage.

7, to create a warm and loving family atmosphere for children, more encouragement and praise between family members.

8, careful use of punishment, not because of some small faults and to deny the child, to combat its self-confidence.

9、Cultivate your child's I, let them learn to do things on their own from an early age.nd independence

10, set reasonable goals for children, and accompany them to a. themchieve