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The NPD Trait That Explains Almost Everything
When people hear narcissistic personality disorder, they picture bragging, arrogance, a hunger for praise. Those traits are easy to spot. The harder part sits underneath. A person with NPD often cannot hold a complete picture of you in their mind. They see pieces. They see what you can do for them at this moment. They do not see a whole person with a history, limits, and a separate life.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
Loving as an Ability
The only way to become love is to practice it. Love is neither a promise nor a fleeting feeling. Love is a set of abilities that enable understanding, respect, responsibility, giving, protection, and mutual growth.
By Emily Chan - Life and love sharingabout a month ago in Humans
Before You Become Who You Are
Spiritual practice begins with respecting your "unaccomplished" self. Over a century ago, Nietzsche predicted the spiritual dilemma of our time: as the external world grows ever more powerful, human awareness diminishes. The pressure is immense and inescapable.
By Emily Chan - Life and love sharingabout a month ago in Humans
Maybe There Is No Secret Shadow Government—Maybe It’s Just Us
Like a lot of people who grew up in the 1990s, The X-Files probably had more influence on me than it should have. Back then, I was convinced the world was run by some secret shadow government—a mysterious group of ruthless, intelligent people who knew things the rest of us didn't. They were supposedly hiding advanced technology from the common man and working toward some larger goal that might have been benevolent, or might have been completely sinister.
By mark bradley (mark45xxx)about a month ago in Humans
At 100, He Led a Flash Mob in Worcester. Then He Asked, “Are We Practising Next Tuesday?”
The hundred-year-old lead dancer The speaker sat on the paving stones of Cathedral Square in Worcester. A cable ran out from behind a black case, flat against the ground, looping around several stones polished by years of shoes. Bernard Gilbert stood in front of the speaker. He wore a bright red shirt and a white tie. The tie clip was silver and small. He raised his hands and clapped twice. The crowd did not go completely quiet, but some people picked up the beat. A woman pushing a pram stopped and leaned the handle to one side. A man in a work jacket put down his bag. Two teenagers lowered their phones for a moment, then raised them again.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
She Paid $170,000 for a Boy Who Didn't Exist
Filling the Session Xiao Huang first walked into that shop when she was fourteen. A classmate told her there was a script, one-on-one, and the DM would keep looking at you the whole time. The air conditioning ran cold that day. The hallway was narrow, the walls covered with posters for murder-mystery games. The DM wore a black shirt and held a cup of warm water. She was afraid of the dark. The script had a lights-out section, and she dug her nails into her palm. He handed her the warm water. The cup wall touched her fingers. He said, "It's hot, slow down." She didn't drink. She held it, and her palms grew sweaty.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
She Bought Her Wedding Dress for $3.75. The Tags Were Still On.
The $3.75 wedding dress still had its tags One month before her wedding, Jillian Lynch walked into a thrift shop in Ohio. It was the fourth day in a row. The ceremony was close. Most brides at that point are booking final fittings, confirming orders, paying rush fees. Lynch was flipping through racks. She saw an ivory dress. Camila Coelho. The tags were still on. The price sticker read $3.75.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
The Little Monkey Who Held On Until He Didn’t Need To
Punch was born at Ichikawa City Zoo. His mother did not nurse him. Keepers lifted him out of the enclosure and placed him in an incubator. His cry was thin, almost lost in the hum of the room. Someone gave him a stuffed monkey from IKEA. It was larger than he was. He gripped its arm. His nails pressed into the fabric and stayed there.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
Stop Feeding Dependency, Start Fueling Renewal
Those who most need help are the strong, not the weak. Those most deserving of help are not the most pitiful, but those most willing to learn and grow.
By Emily Chan - Life and love sharingabout a month ago in Humans
Justin Sun Doesn’t Play by Moral Rules. He Plays by Optionality.
Start with the conclusion: Justin Sun is a structural sample. Don’t ask whether he is good or bad. A good/bad ruler cannot measure a man who keeps switching tables among crypto, capital, regulation, and traffic. He is a case study in structure.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
China’s Marriage Crisis Is Turning Into a Gender War
Bride Prices, Gender Imbalance, and Hupu: The Three Layers of China’s Online Male Sphere The argument usually starts with a simple question: why are some Chinese men so angry at women?
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
I Only Meant to Watch Ten Minutes
125 Minutes: A Worker’s Late Night with Hongguo 21:47, he turned off his computer. On the subway, people packed in tight. He held the strap with one hand and pulled out his phone with the other. The screen lit up. The Hongguo icon sat in the second row of his home screen, separated from Douyin by one folder. He opened Hongguo not because he particularly wanted to watch short dramas. Douyin got tiring after a while. WeChat had no new messages. Long-form video required a membership. Hongguo was free.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans