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I’m 43. Money Is Tight. The New Status Symbol Is Saying “I’m Free.”
Born in ’83, 43, Money Is Tight, and the Scoreboard Changed An old classmate posted on WeChat Moments. Instant coffee, two slices of toast. Caption: “Eating breakfast alone, saving quite a bit.” A dozen likes below.
By Jin27 days ago in Humans
Where Paths Overlap
All encounters and partings are not predetermined; rather, they are the result of the soul’s probability field. Life is not a pre-written chain of cause and effect, but a constantly shifting field of possibilities. No one is destined to arrive, and no one is destined never to leave. Who we meet, the relationships we build, and when we part ways often depend on the probability distribution shaped by our current knowledge, identity, abilities, choices, environment, and state of mind.
By Emily Chan - Life and love sharing28 days ago in Humans
The Quiet Habit That Gives Away People Who Live Alone
One Scallion At the wet market, people who live alone are easy to spot. The clothes tell you nothing. The quantities do. Other people pick a bunch of scallions. He picks one. Three pork ribs. The smallest bag of rice. Oil in a small bottle. It looks like money is tight. One person can’t finish more, and whatever he can’t finish goes bad.
By Jin28 days ago in Humans
Everyone for Themselves. Content Warning.
Some people that live in their own world. Some people have others around because they serve a purpose. Other people only call or care about somebody when it’s convenient. Apparently, you have to buy love these days because its not free.
By Nerissha Hunt28 days ago in Humans
We’re Not the Only Animals That Feel Shame
The Animal Origins of Shame We tend to treat shame as proof of humanity. Animals go naked without blushing. Humans lower their heads over their bodies, desires, failures, origins, and intimate relationships. So the question seems natural: why did only humans evolve shame?
By Jin29 days ago in Humans
5 Things Driving Me Crazy After 15 Years of Marriage
According to Google, "the traditional symbol and gift for a 15th wedding anniversary is a crystal which represents clarity, transparency, and a brilliant, strong bond built with care over time". I wouldn't say I disagree with this symbolic object, however, I would say I am more likely to use said crystal to throw at my partner's head.
By Jus L'amore29 days ago in Humans
Love Beyond Projection
Many people believe that love is about finding your other half. But looking deeper, love isn't about finding a partner— it is about seeing the half of yourself you haven't yet lived out through another person.
By Emily Chan - Life and love sharing30 days ago in Humans
I’m 35, Never Married, and I’ve Lived With 5 Men. This Is What I Know Now.
I’m thirty-five. I’ve dated five men. Laugh if you want. I lived with almost all of them. Plain truth: thirty-five, never married, five relationships. At the start of each one, I thought it would be the last. Life doesn’t settle by “the last.” It settles by “at the time.”
By Jin30 days ago in Humans
They Called It “Shame Lips.” Now the Dutch Dictionary Has a Different Word.
Shari Klein stands on a street in Amsterdam. She wears red trousers and a blue shirt. Over her clothes, she wears a merkin, a pubic-hair wig. She holds a microphone. Behind her is a large blue-and-orange cloth banner. One sign reads: “After all, there are no ‘shame testicles.’” Another reads: “Name it, don’t be ashamed of it.”
By Jin30 days ago in Humans
I Had 487 Contacts and Nobody to Call
Pinned Five People I had 487 contacts in my phone. I remembered that number for three years, the way you remember a locker combination you never use but are afraid to forget.
By Jin30 days ago in Humans
The One Test That Tells You Who Someone Is
I One test matters. When someone can take advantage of you, bully you, and face no consequences, watch what he does. Being nice to you normally proves little. Nice words cost nothing. A milk tea, a compliment, a friendly chat are easy. Even someone who does not respect you can act sincere when he needs you.
By Jinabout a month ago in Humans
The Chemistry of Chaos
True happiness in life isn't the absence of pain, but rather that pain doesn't stop you from growing. Living means confronting pain, uncertainty, and continuous effort.
By Emily Chan - Life and love sharingabout a month ago in Humans