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My Wife Is Asking For A Divorce (What To Do If Your Wife Says She Wants A Divorce)

Are you in a panic right now thinking my wife is asking for a divorce and don't know what to do about it? Are you wondering what to do if your wife says she wants a divorce? You're not alone, it's happened to many men before you. But the men who did the right things, and changed themselves in the right particular ways are the one's that ended up with an even better marriage than ever before.

By Hailey SadiePublished 2 years ago 5 min read

I am writing this article as a husband who has been exactly where you are sitting right now. My wife was asking me for a divorce a number of years back and I thought our marriage was over for sure. After doing nearly everything wrong and almost losing her I discovered the secret. You can still save your marriage by following a proven approach that has worked for thousands of couples.

Most men (me included) are not carrying a handbook for keeping their wives happy. Marriage is extremely difficult and problems occur. We aren't normally equipped or prepared when suddenly told by our wives that the marriage is over. When it happened to me, I was hit with an unbelievable sense of anger, fear and hurt. It felt like a massive knife in my back. I had never felt so betrayed by anyone! Sure, there had been problems in our marriage, but I loved my wife and didn't want a divorce.

However, my best efforts to save my marriage seemed to be making the problem even worse. All of the pleading with my wife, the phone calls at work, the promises to change, the flowers and every attempt I made to reach out to her blew up in my face. She was unbelievably cold to me and it hurt like hell! So what was I supposed to do? My wife was asking for a divorce and I didn't want to lose her!

I later learned that I had been doing practically the complete opposite of what I should have been doing. The more I was pushing, the more she was pulling away. The more I reached out, the more desperate and even pathetic I probably looked. I am really glad I figured out in time to save my marriage what I needed to do instead.

If you want to save your marriage, this is where you will have to start:

1. Avoid the critical mistakes that will kill your chance to save the marriage, and learn what you should be doing instead

2. Get out of your negative emotional state and put yourself in a calm, confident and resourceful state

3. Become 100% committed to taking specific action, even if it seems counter-intuitive. There are things you can say and do which will change the dynamics of your relationship with your wife, regardless of how she is feeling right now.

3 Ways to Stop a Divorce

While many people will give you various advice on ways to stop a divorce there is a good way to test if the advice is any good. Does this advice help in the long term or short term? Does this advice come from a base of love and compassion of trickery and deceit? These are the factors that you can use to filter the real solutions from the chaff.

Why people offer advice that is short term or based on deception may be because it has worked for them by luck or that they do not really understand the base reasons for a successful happy marriage and only look at ways to stop breaking apart rather than reasons to stay together which may sound like the same thing but are a world apart. You see stopping a divorce is a short term solution but it the first thing people look for, building a marriage for the long term is harder but yields better results of course. Too many look for ways to stop a marriage and promise themselves they will improve their marriage for the long term once the immediate threat to stability is over but in doing so they either forget to follow through or they damage their chance in their actions to stop the divorce with trickery. So while the title to this article is about ways to stop a divorce they are geared to help with longer term relationships issues to stop it happening again

Act, Don't Talk - How often have you said that everything will be fine, that you can change, that things will get better. How often do you think your partner believes you, how often have you said it before with no results? Words in a time of crisis can feel hollow no matter how heartfelt. The more it sounds like an excuse the more this kind of reasoning will make matters worse. Actions speak louder than words and show true love and commitment. Don't say, just DO!

Do Not Blackmail - One problem that is easy to fall into is using emotional blackmail to get a result, this may get a short term result but will ultimately fail. Using children as a weapon is often used and simply breeds resentment for example. Another case of emotional blackmail is something we do accidentally using the words "but I love you." nothing sounds as bad as this in a heated argument not because it is a lie as you genuinely mean it but because it can be seen as a way to bypass a real issue or as a way to hit them were they are vulnerable making them either give in or to reject that love. An ultimatum which in a heated argument is a terrible idea!

Lose The Ego - Most divorces start from arguments, yelling matches that are crude ways of airing frustrations in a desperate attempt to find a solution to a deeper problem that your egos may be hiding from your partner. When you marry someone you are suppose to open up to them your heart and soul and put aside your ego which is used to shield you against the harshness of the world but can only inhibit love and its problems in a relationship. Instead you must learn to put aside your defenses and your counter arguments, let your guard down and do not fight back. This may hurt but only by doing this can you defuse the anger and tension and you will find that if your partner loves you they will also not want to attack an unarmed opponent and will stop seeing you as an opponent but instead as their lover and partner. Of all the ways to stop a divorce this is the most important skill to true resolution and the growth of love.

Pay Close Attention Here-

Now listen carefully! Take 2 minutes to read the next page and you'll discover a stunning trick that will make your spouse love you for the rest of their lives even if they are this close to walking out the door. There is a set of easy to follow psychological tricks which will save your marriage and get you back to that place you once were - in love, committed, and excited about the future - within a few days guaranteed. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page before it's too late and time runs out- Click Here

Now you can stop your divorce or lover's rejection…even if your situation seems hopeless! There are specific techniques that will show you exactly what to do and what to say to get your spouse back in your arms- Especially if you are the only one trying… Visit this Helpful Site to find out more.


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