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My Husband Refuses To Talk About Problems (Husband Won't Talk To Me About Marriage Problems)

There's nothing worse than having to say my husband refuses to talk about problems. This happens with tons of marriages and it's really disheartening. If you're in a situation where you're saying husband won't talk to me about marriage problems, then this might be the most important thing you've ever read.

By Diego IvanPublished about a year ago 6 min read

Often, communication is thought as the words that you can say and hear when the other person speaks. Effective communication as a couple often goes beyond that. What you did not realize is that non-verbal communication, such as the way you react when you are with your spouse, is often overlook and can be a recipe for future arguments.

Let us take a look at the 4 non-verbal ways that you can start to apply when you are communicating with your spouse and at the same time, help yourself and your spouse in saving your marriage.

Be Open About It

Think of the opposite of openness as secretive and most partners do not appreciate their other half to be secretive.

The next time you are taking a call, instead of stepping out of the room or house to take it, take the call with your spouse near you. The action of stepping out of the house to take a call will suggest some secret activities going on with the call and that will cause your spouse to be suspicious of you.

Action Speaks Louder Than Words

Back up your words with clear actions and this way, you are telling your spouse that you are sincere and honest. When your spouse wants to spend more time together, and you promised that you will work hard on that, plan for it by setting time together. It could be a dinner date or even watching the telly together.

Be Respectful

Being respectful to your spouse means you value your spouse and their needs. When your spouse speaks, look into their eyes instead of rolling your eyes or groan or making demeaning sounds. Do not turn your back to your spouse too when your spouse is talking to you. You will find that in return, your spouse will reciprocate and show you respect when it is your turn to speak.

Consistency Sets Standard

Another non verbal communication method is by being consistent. This is a strong non verbal communication ties and this helps to set the standard of being consistent. Follow up these standards by repeating these actions repeatedly.

For instance, if you place your hand over your spouse's hand when your spouse is talking, and you provide full eye contact to your spouse, this means that you are setting a standard during a conversation.

Repeating this action the next time when you and your spouse are talking, and your spouse will begin to see a pattern that you are fully engaged in the conversation. This repeat actions will provide assurances to your spouse that you are fully committed in the marriage.

How To Save Your Marriage - Marriages Really Can Last Forever

It's a fact that more marriages end in divorce than those that last. It used to be that marriages really were forever. The phrase "till death do us part" was actually meant when it was uttered during wedding vows.

Now, we see or hear about celebrities who marry for 18 hours and couples that get hitched only to get legal status in one country or another.

Marriage is not a word that should be taken lightly, yet it is on a daily basis. But what do you do when your marriage is starting to fall apart, when everything you want is slowly slipping away?

You rescue it.

1) Rescuing the Relationship

To save your relationship, you must first figure out what is causing it to fall apart. Do you and your spouse talk about things, or are you too busy working and raising your family to discuss what's going on?

Have you gone on a date in the last six months? Do you fight and argue all the time, or has one of you cheated on the other?

What is causing the relationship to break down? Let's face it; you don't just wake up one morning and say, "I think I'd like a divorce today."

In order to figure out what's going (or gone) wrong in your relationship, you need to take a step back from your feelings to observe what is going on.

If you fight frequently, write down the things you fight about. Write down the amount of time you've spent together in the last few days, and write down what you were doing when you weren't spending time together.

You will want to get everything straight in your head before you start to talk to your spouse about your problems and what you think might be damaging your relationship.

2) Talking - It Is Not Overrated

After you have gathered your information, approach your spouse. Make sure you go into the discussion calmly and rationally. You also want to make sure that you're not accosting or accusing, but rather asking and questioning.

If you go into the talk too aggressively, you are going to turn them off and nothing will get answered or resolved. Make sure you lay everything out on the table, from the things that are bothering you to the things that you wish you did more of together.

Explain that you want to know how your spouse is feeling, and that you care about where they want the relationship to go.

3) Scheduling

If you have a busy schedule, you may want to make an appointment to have this discussion. Actually, making a schedule for the two of you on a weekly basis is an excellent idea.

All parents know that children thrive on routine, which is why they have a time to wake up, a time to eat, and a time to go to bed. Relationships thrive on a somewhat of a timed schedule, as well.

For instance, I have a friend whose husband and herself spend every Saturday night together. They have young children, so most of the time they stay in instead of going out. They will rent a movie and either get take-out or some quick meal they can throw together once the kids have gone to bed.

They would leave the lights on in the living room long enough to eat their meal, and then, once that's done, they put the dishes in the sink (they will still be there the next day, so there's no reason to spoil the mood by doing them), turn the lights off and snuggle together to watch the rest of the movie.

They don't talk about anything except the movie, and make sure that they are touching each other as much as we can.

It is not "un-romantic" to schedule time to be with your spouse. Make sure that you get some time together, whether it's going out together, or staying in watching a movie. Sometimes you can pull out a board game, add some alcohol, and have a great night being silly together.

As you get along in your relationship, you come to take each other for granted. Spending fun, relaxing time together is one great way to get your relationship back on track.

If you're thinking about filing for divorce because you can't stand the fighting anymore, stop. Think about why you are fighting, and try to put yourself in your partner's shoes.

When you love each other and put a little work into it, marriages really can last forever.

It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?

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