Love

LOVE.

We say it all the time.

"I Love You." or "You know I love you right?"

But as humans do we really have a true understanding of what this complicated feeling is?

There is a belief to most that love comes in the shape of gifts, items, or good deeds. Or how about those other times when love is presented to you in the form of a nice home cooked meal. The unbiased truth of love is that of being subjective and only definitive by its own natural law.

At times often we as individuals get so caught up in our personal belief systems. We place these expectations on ourselves and others about how love should be or where it should be directed. Be honest because we've all been there. We've said to ourselves "I would love them more if they just did more of this and more of that."

Oh wait, ready for the next one? How about when we say "Well if they loved you they would do such and such, yada yada yada."

Yeah, it's very laughable and elementary when you say it out loud.

What we need to comprehend about this powerful emotion is that love does not have an on and off switch or cruise control. It is not a vehicle used to operate from Point A to Point B out of convenience. It is not an electrical tool that you plug in and flick it to start when you need it to serve you. Make no mistake, it's very electric but not of the previously stated but electric in the sense of currents vibrating through oceans and rivers.

Love is an infinite wave of liveliness that can be channeled through us. Sometimes we can focus on where we would like to steer it while most times it steers us to where it wants to make a landing.

Our biggest misconceptions of love stem from propaganda, media, old family beliefs and traditions, etc. Which is neither right or wrong but the main question we need to ask ourselves is that are these your personal credences of love?

Just sit back and think about it. Think about your past or current relationships where you're currently or have been operating out of other people's perceptions of what love is.

You see when that is the case you are not only potentially setting yourself up for failure (or not if you are lucky ), but you could be operating as a mascot for someone or something else that doesn't have to deal with your personal relationships. As humans we are conditioned for programming and repetition so it's understandable. We're subconsciously trained to emulate our past examples.

Until we take those first steps on grasping human behavior and the way we interact with one another on an individual level, then we can begin to understand what love means to us on a degree of independence.