You may think it is fun but what if you're not a gamer?
My boyfriend is a gamer of all kinds. PS4, Xbox, computer, cards. Oh and when I say cards, I don't mean Rummy, Gin, Go Fish. Oh no, he plays Vanguard and Magic the Gathering.
Before we go any further readers, I don't want this to come across as a boyfriend bash. It's not! It's just a vent and it's things I tell him regularly. This is a post for all the other partners out there who go through the same stuff.
So, after my boyfriend finishes work, I always ring him to see how his day was and to have a catch up as we don't see each other much now with work (different shift patterns) and once we have had that chat, he goes straight to games. Every day he has new information and I don't know how he remembers it all. I can barely remember what I had for breakfast that morning. In all honesty, I am in awe of it.
I try to pay as much attention as I can, but I'm not a gamer. It's so hard to take it all in when you're tired, work a job that doesn't keep you engaged as much as you'd like, and all you want to do is sleep but you can't because you have to wait for him to get home for your own peace of mind. Phew. And breathe.
Again, I love my boyfriend with all of my heart but it would be nice not to have to hear about the new Vanguard set that's coming out at the end of the month, all the new cards and their effects that he's managed to memorize all in one day.
Every now and again I do enjoy a spin on Fallout 4 and Fallout 76 (I think...) looks amazing and I do play Magic and I may start to play Vanguard again when the new set does come out but I don't need to know every teeny tiny detail about every card. It's a lot to take in and I have a short attention span at best, let alone at 21:15 at night.
With all of this in mind, I am not saying I don't get a look in compared to his games. I do. He'll send me a text message every day to say I love you. That's all the text will say and that's all it needs to say. As soon as he sees me, he gives me the biggest kiss like he's not seen me in months. He gives me more attention than he does his games.
I moan at him about everything I can. My bus was early and I was late for work, I got stuck behind the snail parade whilst already late for work, I got to work all sweaty and breathless and gross, going home, my bus was late, I got home late, Amazon Prime wasn't working because my Wi-Fi extender got unplugged. He listens to all of my moans and groans for the day so the least I owe him is to listen to him talk about something he loves. I don't just moan at him, though. I do have good things to tell him daily too such as a lovely customer I spoke to on the phone who made me laugh, the cat fell off the sofa from overstretching etc., and what I've been up to throughout the day. Normally if I'm not at work, I'm watching Desperate Housewives on Amazon Prime or at his mother's with a glass of wine (or a bottle...)
It's his hobby. I get it. He's passionate and he adores his games and I totally understand it. It's nice that he enjoys what he does. It could be a lot worse, he could be into drugs, he could be unfaithful, he could be a dick to children. He is none of those things. He is wonderful and brilliant and I wouldn't change him for the world.
So, with all this in mind, just remember the next time your partner starts talking about something they are passionate about, smile and remember this is their passion. It is what they love and as long as they love you more than that passion, that is all that matters. At least he's not a dick to children. Pick up that controller, read that card, shout at an Ork that tries to attack you for no damn reason, and enjoy the fact that if nothing else, you're making your loved one laugh and happy.
Never lose sight of what is important!