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Inspiring Books To Read If You’ve Been Cheated On

by George Gott 2 years ago in advice / breakups / list / divorce

When the people we thought we could count on betray our trust, how do we pick up the pieces and move on?

Inspiring Books To Read If You’ve Been Cheated On

Only someone who's experienced being cheated on knows the pain that runs through the body and in your head. Real heartbreak makes you feel like the air has been sucked out of you and the only position your body can gather is a ball on the floor. The pain changes you. Being cheated on is the ultimate betrayal with pain that lingers for years. Like a broken bone, it heals over time, but the scars of it will never fade. Throughout life, you are reminded of the betrayal every time you open your heart up to others and every time you think of the traitors who broke your trust. Dealing with the feelings of being cheated on can be one of the most daunting things a person can go through, but there is always light at the end. Hearing solid advice and reading about other's experiences through written word can help start the healing process. Below are some of the best books to read if you’ve been cheated on. They can help you begin to sort out the complex feelings faced after or during being cheated on. You can (and will) get over the pain.

The phrase "broken heart" contradicts the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of cheating. Psychologist Dennis Ortman points out the psychological aftermath of cheating to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and its symptoms (anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks). Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will guide you step by step to work through conflicting emotions, understanding yourself and your partner, and making important life decisions. Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths and using techniques like guided meditation and journaling to explore and make sense of the heart-wrenchingly feelings you're going through. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerge with the tools to let yourself love and trust someone again.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. The advice it provides is not based on saving your relationship after cheating—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But author Tracy Schorn ridicules such blame-shifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon and their needs. Merging solid advice that champions self-respect along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the indiscretions of cheaters, this book will offer advice on stupid stuff cheaters say and how to respond to them. It also points out rookie mistakes of the recently cheated on person and how to disarm your fears and how to protect yourself. This book is like the friend who guides you through the nightmare called cheating and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

Most times, people who are cheated on blame the third party, but is that really fair? The other person might not know the whole story, or even if your partner is truly in a relationship. This book explores the other side of cheating from the third part of the love triangle's vantage point. In Being The Other Woman, it exploresthe sometimeshumorous, but often painful, details of the raw story of the affair, countless interviews from various women who became mistresses, and in-depth research into the psychology of the other woman and the man who cheats. What is really going on in the mind of the mistress and her lover? Being The Other Woman will help the reader identify what type of affair the other woman is involved and provide guidance as to whether or not the cheater will really leave their partner. Also, it will explore how to make smart relationship decisions and how to heal from the intense pain one is bound to experience either by being the other woman or having one in your life.

Even in the best of relationships, all of us make mistakes. We say and do things, like cheating, we later regret and hurt the people we love most. We try to figure out how to make things right, but most times we make the situation worse. Simply saying you’re sorry, which we usually end up saying, is not enough. In this New York Times bestseller, authors Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas show you in detail new ways to effectively approach and mend broken relationships. As an added incentive, you’ll discover how meaningful apologies provide the power to make your friendships, family, and relationships stronger than ever before.

Sometimes you are the cheater. From your boyfriend to your friends, family, peers, and co-workers there are a lot of people in the world who just don't understand cheating. Therapists and "good old fashioned advice" generally end up blaming the cheater for his/her own character flaws without giving it any real thought and advise cheaters to stop cheating because clearly, it's your own fault anyway. This book is designed to be your understanding friend during this painful situation you put yourself in. It will help you to realize why you cheated, how to prevent it and also the steps forward to help you sort out your new found sticky situation.

During our lives we have all been betrayed by someone we trusted at some point. We've all felt the sting of deceit and subsequent shattering of self-confidence. In How Could You Do This to Me?, author Dr. Jane Greer provides information on the types of people who are more at risk of betrayal, the warning signs of someone who is untrustworthy. She also lays out the process to help decide whether a relationship is worth saving or if it should be abandoned. The first part of the book it discusses the roots of trust and the reasons betrayers betray. In the second part, it reveals our betrayers' many faces like the admirers, users, or rivals. The last part of the book focuses on the fallout from betrayal. In the aftermath of cheating, many people often are confrontational and seek revenge on the cheater. In the end, you learn how you can begin to re-trust your own judgment and others again.

If you think you are getting played, or if you are considering cheating on someone, you better think again! Most people have either cheated or have been cheated on, with very few exceptions. The thing is that no one ever really wants to talk about it. In Unfaithful, the reader will discover some of the dirty details on cheating and the devastating outcomes of getting caught. As a common rule, cheating almost always ends badly. The stories told in Unfaithful are true, the people are real. The advice and some of the opinions are straight forward and not for the faint of heart. From cover to cover, the reader will be entertained; they will laugh, get mad, and may even shed a tear or two.

How do you know you’re ready to trust again and what does it take to be ready? Cheating in relationships violates trust, causing people shut others out. But to experience the freedom and love again, we eventually have to take on risks that can be scary. In Beyond Boundaries, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of past cheating to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend provides practical tools for reestablishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for. Beyond Boundaries will help you bring back closeness with someone who broke your trust and help create a safe environment that fosters trust again. You can move past pain to trust again, it is possible.

Love is blind, or is it? That may be the tired old cliché, but it is the most acceptable reason why so many people are left heartbroken. In Red Flags, written mainly for women but men can relate too, we uncover the major warning signs for when your partner is cheating or about to. We all know how it is to fall in love; to meet someone for the first time and everything is just so right. At first, you hesitate and you pull back, but then your partner does everything right and so inevitably you fall in love. Sadly, when we're in love we devote everything from body, mind, and soul, often leaving none for yourself. We tend to not think of the costs we are more than willing to invest, regardless of the risk. We open ourselves up to being heartbroken, and when it happens we are shocked it actually happened. Stop thinking you're crazy and finally acknowledge the signs and behavior of the cheater. Don't let yourself be the chump next time.

Only after being cheated on, do we have a clean slate for another chance at love. Why not be informed before you dive head over heels on the next person. In The 30-Day Love Detox by Dr. Wendy Walsh, you will discover a revolutionary road map to finding lasting love in a modern world. Melding scientific research, anthropological truths, and proven techniques, her step-by-step, five-part strategy with a 30-day "detox" helps you weed out the 'bad boys and girls' who always are the wrong choice and sets you up to meet the right partner.

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George Gott

Writer & Social Media Editor for Jerrickmedia who is an avid reader of sci-fi and a fierce defender of women, minority, and LGBTQ rights.

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