How To Get Him Back After A Mutual Breakup (Mutual Break Up But I Miss Him)

It often sounds like a breakup was initiated by one side or the other. But often times the breakup was mutual. You both agree that things are not going well and you're tired of fighting about the same old issues. It seems like neither of you are really trying to change the behaviors that create problems and decide to just give it up.

Usually these breakups happen at the highest stress points of the relationship and there really has not been a lot of thought put into it by either of you. It just seems like breaking up is easier that staying together and working out the issues. Many times it's during a heated argument and both sides say things that they really don't mean.

It's very possible that you've found out that you really do love them and want they back. Certainly getting your ex back is going to be tougher than letting them go. During the first few days after the breakup you need to resist the temptation to try and get back together immediately.

You need to take a cooling off period. Just some time to reflect and to let your partner do the same. It won't feel comfortable and the fear that they may find another during this time can lead to some irrational make-up ideas. You need to remember that the breakup was the result of some problems and they need to be resolved. If the problems are not addressed before any reconciliation you will be doomed to the same results (another breakup).

You need to take this time and think about what the problems were. You need to think about what your part of the breakup was and what could be done to solve them. Sometimes it can be as simple as how you presented the problems. Maybe just the timing or the words that you use can get different results. Hopefully your partner is taking this time to do the same kind of evaluations.

There will come a time, hopefully soon, that you'll be able to present your ex with the idea of getting back together. It's very possible that they have had all the same feelings that you have and after this cooling off period you'll both be ready to talk. After a breakup there should be a lot of talking before any reconciliation happens.

A mutual breakup does not necessarily mean the relationship is over. But taking some time apart may be the key to getting back together with your ex

How to Avoid This Common Breakup Mistake

If you've lost all hope of ever getting back together with your ex, take heart... all is not lost!

However, to have any chance of getting back your ex, you'll have to take some action... and one of the first things to do is... change your focus away from getting back together with your ex!

Do I know what I'm talking about? Have I gone mad?

I expect these are just two of the questions going through your mind right now!

And no, I haven't gone mad! And yes, I do know what I'm talking about! You see, when you break up and you want to get together, you become consumed by thoughts of getting back together again. You can think of nothing else... except getting back together.

Am I right? Do you spend pretty much all of your day, thinking about being back together and how to make it happen?

If you're anything like me, the answer will be a resounding... "YES!" And therein lies the reason why it's important to change the way you're thinking and take the focus away from getting back together. Let me explain further...

No one wants to make a decision when they feel pressured. If your partner's been resisting getting back together with you, they'll feel pressured if you appear to be trying to get back with them all the time.

So, the remedy's quite simple... remove the pressure and focus on something else instead!

One way to do that is to simply have a good time and be yourself. Your ex fell in love with you at one time and they'll be more likely to love you again when they see the great person they fell in love with originally. Look, as we go through life we change. As we enter deeper into relationships we change as well. We sometimes lose sight of what's important... having fun! Life should always be fun!

We lose sight of what first attracted our partners to us. Did your ex fall in love with you because you put pressure on them? Because you spent endless hours discussing your relationship? Because you were serious about life?

My guess is, the answer to all those questions is, "NO".

Ask yourself this question...

Why did you fall in love with your ex?

My guess is, you fell in love with your ex because of pretty much the same reasons they fell in love with you! So... go back to the days when you had fun... when you laughed at the most ridiculous things... when you were trying to impress them... when you had fun! Really, I can't emphasize this enough!

One of the things you have going for you is that your ex has already fallen in love with you. At one time, they fell in love with the person you are. Your relationship may have brought out many things, both good and bad, but deep down, you're still the very same person your ex fell in love with. So, be yourself! Return to the fun-loving, caring person you were when you first fell in love with each other.

Look at it this way... your breakup will have brought out many emotions. You'll almost certainly be acting quite differently than when you first fell in love. You'll be hurting, and so will your ex. You'll both be acting on your emotions and most of those emotions will be negative.

The important thing now, is to strip your actions of all the extra things you might be focusing on right now and instead, just concentrate on being the wonderful, genuine, carefree, beautiful person you've always been.

More than anything, this will go a long way to returning your ex into your arms.

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