How does a divorce impact men and women?

When talking about a divorce and its consequences, women are generally thought of as the most affected gender ; however, similar responses have been shown that entail certain differential factors between men and women at the time of facing the crisis.

Such factors are determined, for example, with the causes of divorce, be it infidelity, economic problems, and lack of tolerance, among many others, in addition to which of the two members of the couple makes the decision.

Differences between the psychological impact of divorce on men and women

So let's see the most common aspects that have been found on this topic, according to studies carried out at the University of California and Nebraska, in addition to other data obtained in consultation and research that I have carried out in my profession.

1. In general, a man, when divorcing his partner, also goes through the separation of his children

This leads the man to feel a deep emptiness and in the case of the woman to assume greater responsibility when she stays with her children.

2. The judgments they face behind a critical and macho society

We have become accustomed to making judgments simply by what we observe without knowing the causes or the feelings that others carry inside.

3. The financial aspect

When it comes to money, this can become the worst enemy, not only for reaching an agreement of responsibilities, but also for assuming new challenges when it comes to taking control of money management and its organization.

The financial aspect has always been debated in that women are more impacted when it comes to taking that control, going out to work (those who did not), being aware of payments on time and not missing anything for the well-being of their children. , compared to men who also find a large number of complaints and lawsuits due to the lack of economic support to support their children.

4. When it comes to the emotional part, depression and anxiety are very common in both genders

Here the difference is marked in the way in which this chaos is faced , since the man tries to mask his sadness, relates much less and looks for outlets such as alcohol, looking for a woman or loneliness. While women are more likely to seek help, vent to friends, even cry, write or take time for her, go out with her friends or drink alcohol.

5. Physical well-being

We cannot ignore the physical consequences that a breakup brings, since continuous illnesses, eating disorders and even physical neglect can be seen in both genders.

6. Self-esteem suffers a blow in men and women

This is due to the fact that before the divorce one begins to make an inventory of what was given during the time that the relationship lasted , to think that it failed, to have thoughts of an uncertain future or to imagine their ex-partner having a new relationship or feeling that you are no longer the priority for the other. It is a game of ego, of pride, which is a hidden monster when it comes to reaching an agreement or looking after the well-being of the children.

Concluding…

It is important to keep in mind that the points described above can occur in either of the two cases of gender , or may or may not be your case. What I do consider important to highlight is that both men and women are impacted by a crisis situation, without the need to blame ourselves, without judging ourselves about the reason for the divorce, but yes, accepting that in the face of pain it becomes lighter when we count with the support of a professional who provides us with the appropriate resources to transform families and start over from a state of well-being.