Good people become "bad" and are spoiled out

It is not difficult to understand, human nature is such that it is easy to get an inch.

You do too much, spoiled him, let him take it for granted, even "thank you" are less, take that as their due, so it will "give no thanks, do not give anti-hate".

You are accustomed to bad habits, and no one can blame others who do not see outside.

Most of the relationships between people break down from not seeing outside the beginning.

Out of proportion, the natural bad feelings.

1. help people, to be a little proportional

Then the good feelings are to pay attention to the proportion, let alone help people.

Who knows, will not accidentally help out an enemy.

Have seen a paragraph.

A beggar to a family begging, the other side gave him 10 yuan, the next day to give 10 yuan, and so on for two years, but the third year to give only 5 yuan.

The beggar could not help but ask each other why the money is less, the other side smiled and said: "because I got married!" Originally thought beggar will wish that person a happy wedding, but then the beggar thought is their own money less, so angry slapped over: "fuck, you even take my money to raise his wife."

Loving, willing to help people is right, but out of proportion to help, easy to feed the appetite of others, it is like finding trouble for themselves.

Once one day you reduce or stop helping them, they will therefore have a grudge against you, and you turn against them.

The relationship is broken, in a matter of minutes.

As the old saying goes, spoiling a child is like killing a child, spoiling a friend will not be so.

So, no matter who you help, we must pay attention to the proportion, otherwise, it is easy to spoil friends into "enemies", you think to help him, is harming him, so that he is used to something to find you, forget that "better to ask people than to ask themselves", in the end, only the worse the day.

2. Borrowing money has principles, borrowing urgent, not poor

As the saying goes, talking about money between friends hurts feelings.

Not as a last resort, do not involve money.

Otherwise, if you are not careful, you may not even have friends to do.

Then what can borrow money?

Of course is to borrow urgently not to borrow poor, help others to solve the urgent, then help others out of poverty simply.

To save the emergency is when someone is in trouble, lend money and goods to help him get through it.

As long as you have a pushback, the other party will complain that you "don't mean what you say", rather than this, it is better to refuse at the beginning.

As Haruki Murakami wrote in "What I Talk About When I Talk About Running": "If you violate the principles you set for yourself, even once, you will violate more principles later."

No principles of help, easy to spoil bad habits.

Even better friends will also become enemies.

3. your goodness should be a little sharp

It is right to be a good person, but it is wrong to be a bad person.

To anyone good, see who all help, no principles of good people, not only will wear themselves out, but also spoil more people who do not see outside, one by one to help you, you also agreed to all.

Think we are all friends, do not think others just take you for a fool.

So, again kindness should have a "degree", what should help, what should not help, have a standard in, not always unprincipled to agree.

Helped one, can not help countless.

The result is that they are busy, "good people" when not, but easy to increase a bunch of "debtors".

Why bother, instead of asking for trouble, it is better to be happy with yourself, do not want to say yes to refuse.

Whatever others think, they are happy.

According to their principles, be kind but a little sharp, and live their own.