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Forgiving Others Will Significantly Make Your Life Better

"Forgiving" is a thing that we do not often think about but will bring a huge difference in life

By Greg RSPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
Forgiving Others Will Significantly Make Your Life Better
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The human brain has evolved over millions of years to protect our physical body from injury, illness and death. Our brains have also adapted to make sure that we do not become emotionally involved with people who cause us harm. This is beneficial as it prevents us from being overwhelmed with negative emotions (such as anger) if we are physically harmed or victimized. However, this can sometimes prevent us from forgiving others who hurt us. Below are some common reasons why we find ourselves unable to forgive and how you may overcome this obstacle.

1. You don't want to feel like an emotional victim.

Human beings have evolved in order to avoid becoming emotionally entangled with other individuals. If people were able to take responsibility for their own feelings, they would be much less likely to blame other people for hurting them. When we feel like victims, we often end up feeling angry, upset, sad, frustrated, etc., and are therefore prone to retaliate against those who have wronged us.

2. You're afraid your feelings won't translate into action.

If you let yourself get angry at someone who has done you harm, but then decide to remain passive and stay quiet about it, you are sending out the message to that person that you will give him/her free rein to continue harming you. This means that you have given up any hope of changing his/her behavior.

There are many reasons why forgiving someone may be beneficial. For one, it can help to reduce the stress that comes from unresolved anger or resentment. Additionally, forgiving someone can help to restore a sense of calm and peace. Finally, forgiving someone can help to build a much better life experience without the feeling of anger, resentment, or guilt for not forgiving others.

So, you can try these tips to start forgiving others for the sake of your better life:

1. Be Honest

Don't lie about how you really feel. You are allowed to have feelings, but you should remember that your emotions can change at any time. Don't pretend that everything's fine when it isn't. If you want forgiveness from someone, then you need to take a risk and tell them what you're truly feeling. They deserve to know if they hurt you, even if it was unintentional. This way, you won't have to carry around all this guilt for years. Sometimes, people who hurt us aren't aware that what they did is wrong. So, don't let them off easy by forgiving them. Say something and make them realize what they've done.

2. Give Them Time

Forgiving someone doesn't mean forgetting their mistakes. Instead, it means giving yourself time to heal. It might sound like common sense, but not many do it. There's nothing wrong with holding onto anger for awhile; however, it takes longer than you think. Eventually, you need to let go of any bad memories and move forward. Your relationship with the person may never recover if you keep holding onto grudges. Letting go of negativity can give you a fresh perspective on things.

3. Start Over

If you're angry with someone, start over again. When you forgive, you are essentially saying that you understand that what you felt wasn't right. Forgiveness allows you to look past the mistake and give back hope to the person who has been affected by your actions. Even though you might not want to talk to them anymore, that doesn't mean that you can't find some sort of connection with them.

And for the closing, I just want to say that being a person who often makes mistakes(like me and you), choosing to forgive others is a simple yet prudent action.

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Greg RS

I write about self-development, business, and more. I also share some worthy insights :)

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