Even if you are alone

When a woman reaches middle age, she still needs a soulmate, and she still needs love.

When a woman reaches middle age, her attitude towards her feelings should be more demanding and demanding, because she is no longer young and can no longer waste time being confused by love.

A woman in her middle age needs high-quality companionship, a love with commitment and happiness, such emotions so that middle-aged women in the rest of their lives on the road are no longer alone, and no longer repeat the same mistakes to experience the loss, pain, and loneliness in those previous lives.

A 39-year-old friend divorced for 2 years, very much looking for someone to rely on, has not been able to meet the right person, last month she changed a job, the new unit met a very enthusiastic pursuit of her man, she was moved.

She felt that the warmth of this man could make her sweep away years of loneliness and isolation, but she was hesitant because the state of this man is divorced and not away from home, he has the right to say he loves her but is not qualified to give her commitment.

The woman in mid-life, even if life is lonely, does not "love" these two kinds of men, has no results, and will not give you happiness.

01 sweet words to you but can not give you commitment to the man

The middle-aged Yin Jung is with a married man, surprisingly, and their separated husband of five years divorced. She is fully committed to an unknown relationship.

There is no common language between Yin Jung and his husband, from the beginning of the marriage to later, there have been constant conflicts, so during the separation for many years, she did not have too many demands on her husband.

Because there is no more love for a man, so there is no more expectation.

Last year Yin Jing met a man who could give her warmth emotionally, Mr. Zhang, whose warmth made her rekindle her desire for love, her yearning, and her expectation for a man's company.

Mr. Zhang is a funny and gentlemanly man, and Yin Jung initially just felt that she could talk with him, and she complained to him about her unhappy marriage and the loneliness of her life.

It was as if Mr. Zhang could see Yin Jung's heart, understand her loneliness and give her just the right amount of comfort to fill this loneliness in her heart.

Disappointed with her marriage, Yin Jung decided to divorce and follow her heart's expectation of happiness, looking for the happy partner she had always imagined.

When a woman reaches middle age, it is very easy for her to be amorous to the wrong person because of the loneliness in marriage, and lose her reason and judgment when she is amorous, and lose the reserve that a middle-aged woman should have.

Yin Jung decided to divorce, not at Mr. Zhang's suggestion, but entirely on her own, because she felt that marriage was too lonely, that she had been alone for many years, and that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with the people she loved and with the feelings that made her feel happy.

But before doing this, Yin Jung hadn't thought about it at all. This Mr. Zhang, although he always said he was divorced and loved her, never offered what he would give her and what he would do for her.

Only after the divorce did Yin Jung know that this man who talked to her ambiguously about love, sweet words, and gentle words of love, was divorced, except that he had not left home, and he said he wanted to preserve a complete home for his children.

The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good husband, not a good man and a good father, but a free extra-marital affair without the constraints of marriage.

Yin Jung only realized after the divorce that the lover she was seeking, the one who could give her warmth and comfort, could only give her occasional warmth, a moment of tenderness, and was not willing to give her the promise of the rest of her life, nor was she going to give her marriage.

The greatest pain of a middle-aged woman is to love the wrong person, to a person who has coaxed her feelings moved, gone love, but not to the result.

The pain for a man who refuses to commit and has not made long-term plans for love makes a middle-aged woman look childish and leaves her heart helpless, and if she continues to dwell on him, it will be even less worth it.

Middle-aged love can be very heartwarming, can be full of passion, but can not lack commitment, the kind of commitment to the rest of your life together.

A woman in her middle age should not be very sweet to a man who can't give his commitment to be affectionate.

02 full of affection but not very dedicated to love you man

The 43-year-old Lou An experienced two failed relationships, and decided to be single for the time being, she did not want to meet other people to get along with in the short term, but no one can understand a 43-year-old unmarried woman will be so rejected feelings.

Lou An had a five-year relationship, met her ex-boyfriend when she was 33 and broke up at 38.

The 5 years she lived very aggrieved, but also pay a lot of feelings, but do not want to finally be abandoned by her boyfriend, in vain to pay 5 years, after the breakup has been close to middle-aged Lou An panic.

Lou An can't stand the strange eyes of people around her, always sensitive to people asking her about her feelings, she is also more afraid that after work, back home, the house is empty, and no one to talk with her, no one to give her the warmth of loneliness.

So, at a company party, she accepted a boss's ambiguity, and she didn't think about why she would accept his ambiguity by default at that time, maybe it was because she was too lonely living alone.

This boss is married, but he can be very affectionate and warm to Lou An say, love, say like, say want to be with her, he knows how to care for her, always will give her a surprise when she feels lonely, sometimes a bouquet, sometimes a few warm words.

In this way Lou An fell into a relationship, to escape the loneliness of being alone in middle age, she fell in love with someone she shouldn't, although at the time she didn't know if her love would really make her less lonely.

A man with a family, he said to the woman outside of marriage love, how much true, there can be how much heart?

These questions are Lou An really with this man together, love to pain love to confusion, love to more lonely time, only to think up to ask themselves?

Finally, when Lou An could not resist wanting a name, the man turned and left, without a bit of love, more than a little when pursuing her deep feelings.

The woman, who is alone, should not accept the love of a married man, and should not be full of affection for a man who will not love her exclusively.

Because he has a family, and a lover, his deep love is not pure his purpose is not pure, and he can give the woman's happiness is also unknown.

A woman's life can have a few 5 years, Lou An but wrongly paid two 5 years, if the first is young do not know love, the second is entire because they thought they could not stand loneliness and fall into the wrong love.

When people reach middle age, women are lonely, and they should not be amorous to these two kinds of men, because these two kinds of men can not give women the same feelings, moreover, they can not give women the future and happiness, middle-aged women are afraid of loneliness, not sensible enough amorous will only make their life more lonely.